I KNOW!!! You’ll even hear educated aunties bragging to other aunties that “Oh my daughter is so obedient that she married whomever I threw her at.” Blind obedience is a turn off. Your children are human beings not cattle.
Islam allows children to disobey parents if they are suggesting something that goes against Islamic principles. Desi parents like to pick and choose what Islam says to suit their needs. They only hear the parts which say “You must obey your parents.”…but they forget/or choose to ignore the condition that parental demands and advice be in accordance with Islamic rules. And I believe “respect” is requirement in Islam…and does not exclude fiances or in-laws. LOL