GSUK, I think its VERY nice of you not to bring the families disagreements affect how you treat her.Very noble of you m'A. It's natural to be confused about how to act when your own parents cant make up their minds. It really is their fault, I'm sorry.
Even if the families did get into a fight, they should realize not to drag the two of you into it now.It's not like you guys just eloped.... it was an arranged marriage arranged BY THEM.
The only thing you can do is to remain neutral.Tell your parents that since now she is your wife, you will deal with her the way you think is fair.Don't let them degrade her or her family in front of you. Similarly, tell your wife that you wouldn't appreciate her slagging your family off. Everyone has to TRY and get along now.
thats what i have been trying to say...n i think my words came out wrong