Thanks everyone for ur input particularly diwana, mall n psquared. You have all been great. Diwana i know it does affect me sumtyms man like Im very stressed today because i jus had a massive row with my family n dey r not happy with me which makes me feel guilty, angry n stressed. My parents r constantly givin me examples of my cuzions n how they listen to their parents, control their wives whilst im bein 'begherat' in their opinion. It gets me mad cz ur ryt my family shud b grateful dat i got married to d girl of their choice (at dat time) but dey conveniently forgot that time now. My wifes mentality is very different to myn which dn help me. Oh wel It shud b aite afta a while. im sure there r people who have alot worse situation dan me so its nt too bad. Hopefuly she wud b half sensible n we wud get thru it n den we wil live happily ever after, lol yea i fukin wish.
here u sounds like a nice person may Allah bless u and ur wive to coperate with u inshAllah to have a balance and succcessful life.(ameen)