Re: Should i be a loving or controling husband?
Maina ders two main reason y i dont communicate with her very openly. First i want to ease her into everytin once shes here with me as at d moment she myt b very sensitive to d tings i say n might make her more worried n insecure, unecessarily. On d oda hand , ur right dat i myt setting wrong expectations n she wud den say u have changed etc.
wel I dint bring dis particular issue up with her because I wasnt sure how involved shud i be with her family. I dont have much knowledge of how husband shud be with his wife's family, islamically n culturally. I wanted to know wat my role shud b befo speakin to her abt it. I thought may b im abit eccentric in dis sense dat i dnt want netin to do with them. Wat shud i say to her? i dnt want anytin to do with ur family, she wud say sumtin like meri khushi kei liye ker lo? n id have no answer to dat. I hate dat line n she uses it alot to shut me up.
i think im not very diplomatic in urdu. She cnt speak english so v communicate in urdu n im at disadvantage der. I think tings like dat u jus need to hint at, shudnt have to spell everytin out.