Should i be a loving or controling husband?

[aliyahali]

@GSUK

Diwana you are right im being influenced but i m constantly tryin to counter that and think indepdently. For the most part, i do think indepdently even when under the influence lol.
Mall what you said is true but Im always nice, loving n sweet towards her and im more than happy to listen to her criticism but I dont know how to deal with it when i feel she is doing the wrong thing for example she expects me to send presents to all her family on their birthdays, on eid etc but my family dont even receive a phone call from them or even i never receive any present or a phone call on my birthday from her family. She indirectly asks me to do that and dat makes me feel uncomfortable but i dont wana be rude and say y shud i when they dint.

So, i jus say ok but it annoys me from inside. why wud she even ask me knowing the situation between the families. I wud neva ask anyone to send my family anythin. Its abt self respect n it shows certain traits in the person which i dn feel comfortable about and worries me what future holds for me. For me things like dat r jus riasin the flag but not conclusive so jury is still out for me and im stil tryin to understand the person. However, i cnt ignore any strange traits.

PSquared your views are so balanced. Think ur very intelligent n socially clued up.

This just shows her to be what she is.

If she cared for you, she would also make an effort with your family and their birthdays.