Re: Should i be a loving or controling husband?
GSUK life is abt balance. no one is perfect. i bet she has found many traits in YOU that she is not particularly excited abt u know? plus u know what is gud for u is not necessarily gud for her. i mean its abt one's thinkin also. so no one can b perfect over all.
i was a bit taken back that she wud expect u to wish and send gifts to her family on birthdays etc. maybe she thinks ure earnin v well there and can afford all of that. i bet she wudnt think this way if u were an average earner or from Pakistan. i wudnt agree wit this kind of thinkin of hers. maybe u need to tell her v calmly that she is expectin a bit too mch. also try to explain her to try to make mends with ur family. not that u want her to back down or show that the girl's side is desperate but explain that this is done only to bring harmony in the relations. tell her there is no harm in initiating a positive thing. also try sayin this to ur parents also who EQUALLY need a reality check. they need to atleast maintain cordial relations with ur in laws, for your SAKE!!
i think ur wife is being unreasonable in her request for gift. tell her ure a guy and if u remmber her bday and anniv, she shud consider herself lucky... say this in a joking way, nothin serious alrite. and pls its imp that u think frm her point of view also. indirectly try to see what she finds negative in u and indirectly u let her know hers. that way both of u know what displeases one another and work on that. hope that helps.