Re: Should I accept him?
If he wasn’t Muslim and Pakistani, there would be no perceived dichotomy in his behaviour.
The majority of medical students party (harder than other students) because they word hard. That doesn’t mean that they don’t take their careers very seriously by doing what they can i.e. voluntary work (which in this case seems to be just as much about getting much needed experience for the next round of applications than being purely altruistic).
The only factor which would modulate behaviour in this case is religion, since he’s not bound by Pakistani cultural norms and just seems to be like any other British guy. So what you need to consider is how religious are you and are you compatible on that level?
Yes, it all really just comes down to our different cultural upbringings. I do understand how during his student years he partied, but when he does come to Pak, he fully forms to our society so it’s a strange transition that I see in him.