Re: Should I accept him?
I’ve seen people change after they got married. Not because their spouse wanted them to but it was their decision to settle down and change their ways for a happier marriage.
I think you should get to know him a bit more in terms of his values, long and short term goals and really work on answering the ‘hard questions’, stating your non-negotiables and seeing if yours aligns with his.
I think for situations like these it’s important to seek advice from ones close to you but to also trust your gut. You know him better than we all do and if you feel he is someone that is understanding, supportive and someone who you can see living your life and raising your children with then you should go for it! Since I am assuming after marriage you will be moving to the UK or aboard it’s important to keep an open mind and positive outlook to be able to adjust yourself.
Good luck
Yes I have had talks with him about his goals in the short and long term and they all seem sensible and admirable. I just hope he starts sobering up if we do decide to take this further. Thanks
