Should He Leave Her?

Its a guy i know from a long time, orphaned at young age, he was brought up by his uncle. His uncle supported all his education but at the same time, he married her girl to him. The woman in question stopped studying after grade 10 coz she was notmuch into studies and parents never bothered bcoz she was gauranteed a rishta. They were married when he had just started his career and establishing himself was all on his mind. Now he is a successful professional, has two kids, but, couple don’t get along very well. He says that wife she is jealous, has a temper and cannot fit into his social circle nor she tries to change herself. They disagree on almost everything in life.
He is considering a divorce.

IS he justified in this?

p.s, i recomended him not to, atleast for the sake of kids.

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Is it just me, or do people have high expectations of life forum?

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iconoclast, have they seen a counselor or two?

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Why did he not encourage her education?

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encourage is one thing, but the other person has to take the initiative, u cant study for them.
although yes women should listen to their husbands and do exactly as they commandeth..thou shalt go to college..

:P

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Point is - he married a jaahil. Now deal with it.

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^ A person without formal (post secondary) education is not necessarily a jaahil.

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maybe he married her when she was in grade 10 and at that point her future jahalat had not been an established fact.

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so he never liked her but he has two kids with her? So another words, after using and abusing her, it's time let her go and get a new pin up barbie doll. Shahabsh jawaan, khoob hum mardon ka naam roshan karo.

One must never call anyone jahil PCD, I have seen people with PHDs act like pure asses.

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I don't think the main issue for them is degree or years n school rather compatibility. And at that point of life, he was not in a position to say no, or so he says.

X2, no he has not, but in general i have found counselors don't work for desis.

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judging him is fine, but lets say he made a mistake, due to feeling of obligation or whatever. would staying together in future be another mistake?

if we turned this around and had some baychari larki who got married to someone because of some feeling of obligation or not quite of her free will, and was unhappy, tried to give it her best but the husband was an ogre who refused to change..what would we be advising her?

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Mc12IT eligible guy ALERT!

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eligible for reduction in court ordered community serve hours perhaps :(

Bulls eye

How does she view this marriage ?

You are right IT. Thats what as a man i thought too, like, why can't you just live on, keep the marriage. But got me thinking, do men think of women or wives as hmans or as furniture which can be kept in house even if not liked. Is this healthy een for the woman?

I am not sure how she feels about the whole thing but she does not want a separation.

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as X2 said maybe its time the see a counselor & well if thigns still dotn work out then its better to leave.

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I hope he was not underage when he got married . If not then he should know that he signed on that nikkah-nama with open eyes and a sane mind .

"Life is like a box of chocolates , you never know what you are going to get."