^ why did she sleep with the idiotic person? regardless of that, he has the right to know its his kid.. and very clever on her part to schedule the c-section.. but havnig said that, regardless of what she does to cover up the situation... it'll come back one day to bight her on the bum..
its very difficult to keep such a secret and have a happy marriage.. wouldnt this be on her conscience? I understand her sister's position... id be dead mad at my sister for doing such a thing.. and sadly if it does come out, it may impact her own marriage.. its prob in her best interest that the truth doesnt come out..
another thing, if ur just a family friend.. how do u know? it seems the community knows and yet the person who needs to know, does not..
its another thing not having to tell ur spouse about past flings.. its another to fulfil your sexual desires a few days prior to marriage, get pregnant and not tell ur hubby
and those who are suggesting aborting the pregnancy.... i ask.. what is the fault of the child? why does an innocent life have to pay for their parents idiotic decisions.. ?
i really dont know much about her logic or reasoning behind her sleeping with that guy....
the reason i know is cuz she only has one sister and wanted us girls to bring her in to the hall at the nikkah.... and then she told her sister and us that she was feeling sick and explained y....
Like honestly i think that the only way she will learn her lesson is if her husband knocks some sense into her!!
I want her to know that it will eventually come into the open and it will be waaay worse than..and will affect her family, marriage and child's life.
Her husband is a really nice guy... and i thikn he should know but her sister opposes and i c her reason too. (but i am not going to tell him cuz thats not my job!)
I do understand why people would suggest an abortion. It makes sense logically but not morally. She can get an abortion, put the child, the fling and possibly impacting her sister's marriage behind her and move on to have her husband's baby. However, morally speaking...its wrong. Its a baby...a child and he/she has no fault in this entire scenario and should not be paying for her/his mother's sins.
Her sister's marriage will suffer and most probably will pay for her sister's mistakes. That is a fact that will have to be accepted. Its simply too late in the game to do much damage control. All she can do is tell her husband and pray for the best...that he will accept her with this mucked up situation.
Another thing: if she isnt too concerned about repenting...why are we even discussing this? Stay out of this, let her deal with it, she will reap what she sows. Its one thing if the girl realizes her mistake, is sorry, wants to correct herself and is trying to find a solution to her problems BUT if she doesnt care...why do you?
Do not gossip about this, meaning dont tell a soul and contribute to the destruction of her marriage (not saying you are). But if this woman isnt concerned abut her future, husband, baby, fling, etc. then allow her to take care of it.
^ having said that.. there were at least 3 other girls present when this news came out.. so whose to say they have not told anyone else?
Whats sad is that, if the girl does not even care.. and the whole community knows. The guy will surely end up finding out... and what'll happen then? the trust.. the love.. the respect... it'll all be gone..
I feel for the sister. It wasnt her fault.. did she know about the fling before?
yah i guess i really shouldnt get worried! one thing thats soo annoying is that when u post a problem on gupshup and u r looking for advice ppl yell at u...and get mad at u..when i m just asking!
but aside from that no her sister didnt know about the fling
^ we arent yelling at you. we’re having a heated discussion.
i want me some molten lava cake now.
what a stupid, stupid girl. i hope she quickly rectifies this problem. im probably alone in this, but i feel bad for the girl. wait a second, id feel bad if she actually repented but since she doesnt really care about any of this… shes a complete fool.
I do understand why people would suggest an abortion. It makes sense logically but not morally. She can get an abortion, put the child, the fling and possibly impacting her sister's marriage behind her and move on to have her husband's baby. However, morally speaking...its wrong. Its a baby...a child and he/she has no fault in this entire scenario and should not be paying for her/his mother's sins.
Her sister's marriage will suffer and most probably will pay for her sister's mistakes. That is a fact that will have to be accepted. Its simply too late in the game to do much damage control. All she can do is tell her husband and pray for the best...that he will accept her with this mucked up situation.
Another thing: if she isnt too concerned about repenting...why are we even discussing this? Stay out of this, let her deal with it, she will reap what she sows. Its one thing if the girl realizes her mistake, is sorry, wants to correct herself and is trying to find a solution to her problems BUT if she doesnt care...why do you?
Do not gossip about this, meaning dont tell a soul and contribute to the destruction of her marriage (not saying you are). But if this woman isnt concerned abut her future, husband, baby, fling, etc. then allow her to take care of it.
Grab a box of popcorn and relax.
Mahiya ... some of us do feel that since you know of this sin .. you should keep on trying to let that girl know what is the right thing to do ...
but i so very agree with Bon .... if that girl isnt repenting .. she will learn the hard way .. we can only feel sorry for her husband and child and inlaws and even parents ....
Number one shes not like my very close friend or anything just a family friends daughter...
Number 2..she feels bad....but not enough to tell her hubby and in my eyes she doesnt seem like she cares to repent
number 3----the baby's father is a complete and total idiot and she has no interest in telling him that this is his kid....
If she's not such a close friend, then how do you know? Either she thinks ur closer to her than you think you are to her
or she's a shameless fool who doesn't really care about her self her family her husband etc and will tell anyone just not her own husband and father of her child
or....she's just making it all up :D
IF this is true, God help her baby, the true victim in this sorry sorry story.
yah i guess i really shouldnt get worried! one thing thats soo annoying is that when u post a problem on gupshup and u r looking for advice ppl yell at u...and get mad at u..when i m just asking!
but aside from that no her sister didnt know about the fling
Sweetie noone is yelling at you. It's just this girl's actions are reprehensibel and it makes alot of ppl angryy....
Whatever the truth is, and what she does one thing is clear, keep ur distance from this girl. Girls like her ruin other girls reps by association and she doesn't seem like a good enough friend for you to risk that. Take care
hum musalmaan sirf apnay nabi (s.a.w) ki rehmat ki wajah se bachay huway hein warna humaray aamaal... ! hum per aisa azaab ana tha jo hum se pehlay kisi qoum per na aya hota..
"ye musalmaa hein jinhein dekh k sharmaaein Yahood"
If she's not such a close friend, then how do you know? Either she thinks ur closer to her than you think you are to her
or she's a shameless fool who doesn't really care about her self her family her husband etc and will tell anyone just not her own husband and father of her child
or....she's just making it all up :D
IF this is true, God help her baby, the true victim in this sorry sorry story.
Exactly. I think Sara has pin-pointed it correctly.
^ i think we all normally give the original poster a benefit of the doubt and unless we know otherwise (like if its a thread by inocolast or daasrech) we tend to believe them and the story.
