After the brilliant charter accountancy thread what if the situations were reversed? Would a man be justified in not sharing his income generation with his newly wed wife because he is not sure if the marriage will last?
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If he doesn't trust her it might be understandable imo.. but then what kind of marriage is it anyway?
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Ofcourse. Allah has orderd man to share the details of his income with his wife. He is granted the the use of her vagina in return as she is granted access to his resources. The pious sisters on GS overwhelmingly agree to this.
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Lets state the parameters of this hypothetical situation based on CPA's thread but reverse the genders. The wife does not work, she constantly wants money for various schemes that the husband considers foolhardy. She spends the money in a manner which the husband deems inappropriate.
The husband does not trust the wife, he has considered divorce as an option and that he feels sharing his income with her will make it harder for him to control his woman's spending habits.
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u make it sound like prostitution.
Back to the real world, I don't think so especially if she is earning and doesn't bring in the money to the household. Even with housewives, I have seen that the wives would spend it all out of jealousy or fear that he might buy a 'gift' or give money to GOD FORBID his parents even if siblings are not involved.
I know i know we shouldn't generalize, but this is true of a lot of women on how narrow minded they get with their in-laws. I have seen it happen before my own eyes.
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uzair sounds like a real ladies man who is also pious.. 
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-if he shares bed with his wife, he must share everything else with her too!
-if he sees her 'assets', he must show his 'assets' to her as well!
:D
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Yep. Havent begun to actively search rishtas yet have aleast 3-4 proposals. Does that count?
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No
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It depends on the person.
If the housewife is the type to save, follow a budget, and you can see she is honest. Fine go ahead and show it. But if she is the type to spend and doesnt realize how hard it is to save, I wouldnt show it.
Same goes for the househusband. If the person working is the kind to save, and the person staying at home is the type to spend, well then you shouldn't show it all. That person's mentality will be, hey i can spend more then im spending now.
Its the same way regardless of male vs female.
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^ I'm amazed at how comfortable you are with blatant lying. A half truth is a full lie. You tell your spouse how much you make and you don't let them overspend recklessly; period. It goes both ways . sheesh.
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^ I'm amazed at how comfortable you are with blatant lying. A half truth is a full lie. You tell your spouse how much you make and you don't let them overspend recklessly; period. It goes both ways . sheesh.
Its not as easy as it sounds. Its like going to a family reunion. Telling everyone you won the lottery. Then having to spend your time denying people money.
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why would you want to keep that info?
share the income details, make a financial plan, make a budget.
to me that is the proper way to do things.
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Feast your eyes , don’t look to far
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why would you want to keep that info? share the income details, make a financial plan, make a budget. to me that is the proper way to do things.
this only works when both people have simlar views and a common goal. There are people who naturally will not save. Ive seen people who are in the US for generations, no one has a house, everyone is working class. Ive seen people who came to the US as immigrants with nothing, and in a within 10 years have their own house, with a well paying job.
It is very very very hard to save, when the other person likes to spend.
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this only works when both people have simlar views and a common goal. There are people who naturally will not save. Ive seen people who are in the US for generations, no one has a house, everyone is working class. Ive seen people who came to the US as immigrants with nothing, and in a within 10 years have their own house, with a well paying job.
It is very very very hard to save, when the other person likes to spend.
True, different people have different habits.
Now if there are issues in a relationship where minds can't meet and agreements can't be made then that is a bigger issue.
My approach is pretty simple, certain amount goes into retirement, certain goes into investments and certain goes into savings..rest is in checking...we can spend it as we like, spend more in one thing...cut back on another. etc
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^ cpa it is a marriage not a relationship with your bank. You will never have a successful marriage if you dont trust one another. Similar views will only come up when you talk about them, dicuss plans for the future, talk abt where you stand and where you want to be in 5-10 year. If you hide and don't discuss everything how can you grow together??? For your marriage you need to stop thinking like a CPA and start thinking like a girl who wants to stay in a happy and healthy relationship with her husband (not the bank.)
To answer the OP, yes both parties need to share with each other how much they are earning so the spending, saving can be managed.