The groom is a moron. To blame this on adopting western culture is a stretch. Good for the bride, this idiot is too unstable to be married to.
Agree.. If my brother acted this way I'd tell him to grow up and remind him he's been rude to our own parents himself once or twice..
NOT saying what wife did was ok obviously but I'd be very surprised if these men who are so offended have always been perfect little angels themselves and never sworn or raised their voices in anger to their families..
I might reconsider my previous views based on few conditions. How would the bride have felt if such words were uttered by the groom for her mother in front of everyone. Let us place ourselves in the bride's position for a moment.
Well there can be an exception. In case both of them have usual habbit of abusing their own parents once in a while on their face, that too in a gathering, in that case the reaction of the bride might be justified and that of the groom is not.
Agree.. If my brother acted this way I'd tell him to grow up and remind him he's been rude to our own parents himself once or twice..
NOT saying what wife did was ok obviously but I'd be very surprised if these men who are so offended have always been perfect little angels themselves and never sworn or raised their voices in anger to their families..
abusing and calling parents of your spouse **.....on the wedding day.........is more than being 'angry' or 'swearing' problem........... btw some people take offense when their mother is called a **........ so......
abusing and calling parents of your spouse **.....on the wedding day.........is more than being 'angry' or 'swearing' problem........... btw some people take offense when their mother is called a **........ so......
Yeah, I would be offended but I'm an adult and to me at the end of the day DIVORCE over a single swear word said just once in the heat of the moment is over reacting and I expect if it was the bride's mother being insulted 'some' people here would be making a million excuses for the groom. As I mentioned before it's funny how the same people who are totally 'anti-divorce' are encouraging it here. Divorce said in anger is NOT ok, that is one of the reasons talaq is supposed to be done over a period of time so ppl can think things thru properly and not just act in a knee jerk way..
^ I don’t think people would react different if the bride’s mother had been insulted.
What would people (who are defending the bride) do if their husband/wife to-be called them “beech” or SOB or insert gaali] on their wedding day infront of everyone?
(assuming that one of your parents being insulted in front of a crowd isn’t that much of a big deal What if it happens to you? )
Errr what about the groom, after all his mother was called a b****?
Sh*t happens. By the looks of it, growing up was a better option for the bride than being in marriage thats supposed to be adults’ business.
I’m amazed by some of the responses, seems like in certain households its totally fine to utter single swear word at parents every now and then. Its no big deal.
Why aren’t the pseudo feminists, part time internet scholars, expert copy pasters bringing out hadith that says “maa baap ko uff tak na kaho”…yeah you can’t pick and choose Islam. If there’s chapter on divorce procedures than there’s also sea full of instructions about rights and respect for the parents.
Talking about Islam, what does Islam says about foul language? What does Islam say about respecting elders? Instead of direct condemning, I see half baked, creepy justification for a single swear word for a mother and that too coming from women.
Errr what about the groom, after all his mother was called a b****?
Sh*t happens. By the looks of it, growing up was better option for the bride than being in marriage thats supposed to be adults business.
I'm amazed by some of the responses, seems like in certain households its totally fine to utter single swear word at parents every now and then. Its no big deal.
Why aren't the pseudo feminists, part time internet scholars, expert copy pasters bringing out hadith that says "maa baap ko uff tak na kaho"...yeah you can't pick and choose Islam. If there's chapter on divorce procedures than there's also sea full of instructions about rights and respect for the parents.
yeah But she didn't say uff and besides it wasnt her own parents so you are wrong.
The bride was a dumb spoiled witch to do something like this, and the groom had anger issues. IMO they should have both stuck together, rather than seperate and marry someone else, and therefore end up ruining 2 more lives
Oh and following the "oh so desi" and nauseating trait of tuning every damn thing into an inlaws always bad vs parents always good deal, I wonder how different and militant some of the response would be if bride's mother was abused?
one critical thing we all are missing on this discussion
all we know about the bride is that she swore and we are trying to justify or de-justify the actions of the groom
groom must know the bride way more than any of us so the verdict is maybe she used to swear at his mother all the time and that wedding day was the tipping point - i dont know
If it happened to me obviously I'd be angry but I wouldn't divorce if it was a one off. I don't place pride over common-sense.
Why are we even assuming that bride and groom were some sort of desperate Romeo and Julliet type of love that a single swear word for the mother (groom's mother - yayyyy) has wrecked their paradise and fantasies?
Once you are proper disgusted by someone, its very hard to neutralize your feelings and perception for that person. Acceptance doesn't come easy.
one critical thing we all are missing on this discussion all we know about the bride is that she swore and we are trying to justify or de-justify the actions of the groom groom must know the bride way more than any of us so the verdict is maybe she used to swear at his mother all the time and that wedding day was the tipping point - i dont know
True..
Yeah, I would be offended but I'm an adult and to me at the end of the day DIVORCE over a single swear word said just once in the heat of the moment is over reacting and I expect if it was the bride's mother being insulted 'some' people here would be making a million excuses for the groom. As I mentioned before it's funny how the same people who are totally 'anti-divorce' are encouraging it here. Divorce said in anger is NOT ok, that is one of the reasons talaq is supposed to be done over a period of time so ppl can think things thru properly and not just act in a knee jerk way..
God, SHE ABUSED HIS MOTHER IN PUBLIC. SHE DESERVES TO GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. END OF. I'm sorry but this is so bad, if a man did that to my mother on my wedding day i would so publicly divorce his ass.
now think about it - if a guy lets her mother get insulted in public he will let her wife get insulted as well - marrying such a guy is not a good idea either
I don't think he should have "divorced" her. He should have had a serious talk with her later, and she should have apologized to her MIL. Talaq deyna in a fit of anger [though I can understand the anger] isn't the best option. He should have waited to see her response and would have been able to judge her character better.
What if it happens to you? )