I don't think he should have "divorced" her. He should have had a serious talk with her later, and she should have apologized to her MIL. Talaq deyna in a fit of anger [though I can understand the anger] isn't the best option. He should have waited to see her response and would have been able to judge her character better.
well.........if they did the talaq thing islamic way.........it would consitute one talaq out of 3.......with possibility of reconciliation..........so i see nothing wrong.....
no one with the right mind would come out with such words and that to your mother in law that women is going to be a big part in your life she may never take the place of your mother but im sure she would like to treated like your mother ,
its really not a small issue she created imagine how many ppl would of been in the venue to all this tamasha and the brides parents going home with such embarrasment her ex husband shall i say would of thought wat the hell she called my mum a b now shes gona do a again but u just dont come out with such words wheres the respect dam a little piece of cake fell not like the whole cake fell on her or maybe didnt even fall on her fell on the floor so big deal cake cutting is done at the end anyway that five letter word cost her her such a big price
even if this story isnt true, these kind of stories do happen though. and i agree with the husband here, its shocking, usually for someone to swear in this situation at her mil on her wedding day must mean that kinda swearing is normal for her and on the tip of her tongue,but i donno, it cudve been slip of tongue,....but i guess if i was husband and my wife did that, yes i would get rid of her.
A bit of perspective here. In case of continuous, physical abuse with no remorse shown, there are several here who advise consulting an Imaan or elders and talk it over instead of rushing to a dovorce. Is the bar for divorce so low in this case, while being so high in the case of abuse?
(borrowed from Deeba's line of reasoning with assumed permission)
There is a vast space between not getting angry at all and divorcing the woman. No one says groom should not have been upset. There are plenty of options between the 2 extremes. He chose the extreme step of divorcing her. The bride clearly has some issues - dont we all. Looks liek all those who are in support of this divirce are perfect, never say anything inappropriate agains older people etc. Goody two (spelling?) shoes, me thinks
one critical thing we all are missing on this discussion
all we know about the bride is that she swore and we are trying to justify or de-justify the actions of the groom
groom must know the bride way more than any of us so the verdict is maybe she used to swear at his mother all the time and that wedding day was the tipping point - i dont know
Sure, while we are engaging in the speculation game, maybe she was an axe-murderer also.
I don't think he should have "divorced" her. He should have had a serious talk with her later, and she should have apologized to her MIL. Talaq deyna in a fit of anger [though I can understand the anger] isn't the best option. He should have waited to see her response and would have been able to judge her character better.
At the very least there should have been no rukhsati. Later on, if the groom and his family felt they could get over it, they might've brought her over.
well.........if they did the talaq thing islamic way.........it would consitute one talaq out of 3.......with possibility of reconciliation..........so i see nothing wrong.....
Dear Nomi
If the groom is follower of Hanafi, then it would be 3 Talaq, but I believe others fiqhs have different take on this.
who would stand and film that all?!