Re: Shia father and suni mother
I really feel that you finally come to the point here. To which everyone will have the same answer: sure she is within her rights to marry who she wants. Doesn’t mean anyone else has to like it or has to participate. You can talk about rights all you want, and you will be correct but it won’t solve the reality here which is the father doesn’t care about talk of “rights”. He deems it his right to decide who his daughter marries and in his own place, he isn’t wrong about that either. Painting him completely black is unfair for this point. I can understand that when in love things seem unfair but that is life. Doesn’t have to be fair.
As an adult does she have the right to marry who she wants? yes
As an adult muslim does she have the right? yes
Sure, those are facts. Solid facts. But here’s the kicker:
In view of such knowledge will her father agree to this? Most probably not.
Does he have a right to veto someone his child chooses? yes because that is his right as a parent and also a personal opinion. It need not be heard if she feels too strongly.
So it is a decision she needs to make, rather than butting heads with her dad about it. Decision being, should she marry against his wishes and without his participation.
And as always, the other reality:
Should the guy tell his parents that her father is shia and essentially she is daughter of a shia? yes
if the guy doesn’t tell his parents will that create possible problems for her later in the event they do get married? very likely so.
will those problems be difficult to face after the trouble she went to to get married? YES
There you go.