Shia father and suni mother

chikri_bikri · June 11, 2014, 8:46pm

Re: Shia father and suni mother

People are saying that inter-faith marriages should be fine as long as nobody imposes their views on each other. Well, when kids come about, it can be tricky to educate them about religion if there’s a conflict in beliefs. Then it’s left up to the kids to decide which faith they want to follow. If both parents are not attached to their respective faiths, then they won’t be offended that their children chose mommy’s faith over daddy’s or daddy’s over mom’s or that all children will automatically follow the father’s religion. If both parents or even one of them is very attached to their religion, then it can create much tension. I am not saying that inter-faith marriages cannot work, but I wouldn’t make it sound like they’re not that hard or about as easy as marriages where both partners are of the same faith, or even that avoiding imposition on one’s partner or child is an easy or simple thing. That said, I don’t blame a person if they desire to marry someone who is on the same page.

Those saying that imposition should be avoided within inter-faith marriages should also transfer this “live n let live” line of belief to the OP’s situation, in that there’s nothing wrong if she wants to marry a Sunni like herself. She shouldn’t be made to feel guilty, or wrong, or closed-minded about her decision or preference.

Yeah that’s exactly what I personally think.