Re: Shia father and suni mother
You keep pulling statistics out of the air. Unless you are telling me you know 96 shia sunni marriages which broke and in your spectrum of knowledge mine is the one which is working, the 1 out of 95 has been pulled out of thin air and has no legs to stand on. That said, thanks for your prayers and good wishes. It is somewhat luck that marriage works but MOSTLY it is about commitment to the sanctity of marriage. Whether it is shia sunni, shia shia, sunni sunni, any religion any sect. ANY marriage requires a commitment to make it work and it is as simple as that. Whether your commitment wins over, or the problems win over, that is what defines your marriage at the end of the day.
And really, I believe intersect marriages NEED to happen because avoiding them is non islamic. Marriages should be about muslims, or even people of the Book as that is allowed too. NOT about sects. We need to know the difference between cultural norms and religious norms. And we need to avoid EXTREMISM in any sect/form. This applies to both Shia, Sunni and whatever you can think of.
I would also love to state that this reform can only come about when educated muslims learn to move beyond sects when considering rishtas and understand that they should make things work for the pleasure of Allah once they make a commitment, regardless of what happened in the past.
The OP’s friend’s mother, she really needed to forgive the father. “Forgive to be forgiven”. We need to think about ourselves and our actions and lead a life for Allah. Ranting on about shia or sunni or whatever, that is all very sad and I wish people wouldn’t do so.