Shia father and suni mother

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Re: Shia father and suni mother

@chikri_bikri

The REQUEST in the beginning was for people like you . Read it over please.

And for your argument thingy which you like rather than helping someone, I’ll say atleast he the guy is not like her dad who did HIDE from her mother about the sect if he was so full of shiaism.
He clearly told his sect and so did the girl, they opted the best way by telling the parents not like hiding.
It was never a shia suni discussion, it has been mentioned several times that islam is giving the freedom of choice, one must ask an adult for his personal likings and disliking , wali/guardian should be there at the time of nikah but in this condition after talking to imam masjid and with the presence of girl’s mother this is permissible.
I don’t know how your religion beliefs are but this is what she has been told by imam masjid today.

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A request that rather than judging the people involved please try to help her out as little deeds will also help us in life hereafter.

**It isn’t judgement it is statement of fact that her guy did not fully disclose. If help and advice is asked for as you requested in opening post, I would advise two things:

Step one: Full disclosure to guy’s family as it is required for step two. Elders should be fully aware of situation so that they can decide what to do and how to do it. Only ONE thing comes to light with the guy not disclosing. He feels this will create issues with the rishta or his family will receive this information badly (god knows why). This is the only reason guy is not disclosing. At least the only logical reason given the information we have. If this is the case, then when his family does find out later, since it was the guy’s thinking that it will cause issues with them, I believe such people will create issues for the now married girl. That’s a bad situation for your friend innit?

Step two: The elders on the guy’s side can now decide what is the best way forward in their own community and circles to make this marriage happen in a respectable manner. You and your friend need to trust that elders have seen more of the culture and know better how to approach such things. If you feel youngers know better, then by all means they should get married without this.

Say what you will about the father. One can malign him as much as anyone wants for doing what he did when he did it, but fact of the matter is, it is now a matter of here and now and today, not what happened 30 years ago. If imam masjid which she follows and they follow says it can happen without the father/wali, I guess for them it can. Issue resolved innit?

But really, I don’t think that she will opt for this route no matter what.

So I believe disclosure to guy’s family is warranted. Mother and father at least.

And whether or not you like my advice OP, as I said, I am coming from a shia sunni married point of view. She will alway’s be a “shia man’s daughter” so it is good for you and her to think upon why I am advising that his parents know all.