Re: She was the one, i love a lot, but not anymore…
Oh honey, been there done that. Boy number 2 was showing clear signs of interest roughly a year ago, I wanna say, to the point even the girls had figured it out. They asked me if I was still interested, and I said…no, I’m not. It actually SCARED THE HECK out of me. The boy shows up to my door one day with cake…I was like ok, I need a break. Probably a huge mistake, cuz then I backed off, and he backed off soon after.
I think it’s natural. When you finally get what you wanted, you’re like…erm…ok, not exciting anymore.
But listen, here’s the thing. If we keep enacting on these sorts of feelings, you’re never going to commit to the right person - you’re going to get cold feet every time you actually achieve your love, then at what point are you going to be responsible, commit, and marry a person, as is your responsibility Islamically? You can’t do that sorta thing.
Either you figure out if you care for her on the level of - does she MATTER TO YOU, or not. Don’t go by how quickly Mr. Smith goes to town thinking of her, or whether she makes you wanna write poetry. Maybe your love has just deepend for her, and you’re interpreting it as a loss of interest.
NO matter who you marry, the first few months are gonna be bliss, and then you just get used to each other, and a lot of times, I think people take that to mean the love is gone. That’s not true. LOVE TAKES WORK, and now you have to work on it.
I hate it when guys back off like this. So annoying.