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Filmain kam dekha keejiye - Shukria
hahaha yar ap log kasam se... aisa kuch nahi hai bhai, i just watch sci-fiction movies. Anyway, thanks for ur advice.
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right right right that is what i am thinking that problem may arise after our marriage, well i need to be stone hearted to leave her alone
Nah, add some more twists...right now story is losing its steam....how about her family has lost their social status and now you'd have hard time convincing your parents....that seems to work in bollywood. Might squeeze out some more replies from sensible but naive gupshuppers
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if you want to be inspired by bollywood, why not go for gold?
jaaneman, i have dimushkeemia, ab mei is duniya mei nahi raha blahblah.. 
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Just two words for describing whole scenario: Mashriqi larki
No idea what this means, sorry. I would hazard a guess, but at the risk of sounding like an idiot, I won't. :)
Back to the actual topic, I don't think you really want to marry this girl, and the only reason why you are considering her is because she was once a potential who you couldn't have.
Btw, how would you feel if she was to marry someone else now? If there are no feelings as to this, then you're good to go.
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I don't think she cares whether you love her or not.
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hahaha yar ap log kasam se... aisa kuch nahi hai bhai, i just watch sci-fiction movies. Anyway, thanks for ur advice.
You must have seen The Time Traveler's Wife
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I can’t see her with any one, never. I am just saying i have lost charm and care what i had for her. I still make her happy, celebrate her birth day and all this stuff but my heart is not satisfied, don’t know what the hell is wrong with me.
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Marry her ... The first phase was your feelings being magnified ... Now you like her and hence your marriage should work if she respects you and you her. I think probably her break up has made your thinking confused ... If she will marry you ... Go for it.
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@hitman007
may be you're scared of marriage/responsibility etc?
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:)
I can't see her with any one, never. I am just saying i have lost charm and care what i had for her. I still make her happy, celebrate her birth day and all this stuff but my heart is not satisfied, don't know what the hell is wrong with me.
This is love progression ... It is not loss of interest ... :)
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Look, if you don't have ANY romantic feelings for this girl......then you need to STOP making mushy comments like "I'll be with you till the crack of doom no matter what consequences take place" because that's only going to confuse/mislead her. I personally think it's hard to maintain strictly a friendship with your ex because it hinders the moving-on process......but if that's what you want....then be careful with your words.
You can try to take a break from her....(let her know) and use that time apart to figure out your feelings for her. OR...if you're absolutely certain that you don't have any romantic feelings for her, then you need to be direct/honest with her. Tell her that while you were apart from her your romantic feelings for her diminished and that you don't see her in the same way anymore...and that your feelings for her are that of a friendship than a romantic relationship.
You also need to understand that you can't have everything your way. You ARE going to lose something in the process. That SOMETHING will be the dynamics of the relationship.....they're going to change because you don't see her in the same light anymore. As a result...she may try to distance herself from you and she has every right to do so. She may not want to continue talking to you with the same intensity/frequency as she did before because she fears that she'll get emotionally attached to you and that will prevent her from considering future rishtas. It'll be like a trap for her. So, by telling her that you're not in love with her....be prepared for the change that will come in the relationship ....and understand her need to distance herself and respect her wishes. She can't put her life on hold for you...she needs to move forward as well.
I do have romantic (lv) feelings for her(no that type of filmi romantic feelings), i am just not satisfied with my self and afraid of my future, don't have any idea if i can give her true lv and care in future or not.
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LOL 
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I do have romantic (lv) feelings for her(no that type of filmi romantic feelings), i am just not satisfied with my self and afraid of my future, don't have any idea if i can give her true lv and care in future or not.
Wow! You are so concerned for her future, and you want to sacrifice your feelings for her future ... If this is not greater love than you had before then what is it?
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see… i used to surf this forum as a guest and noticed besides making fun, some members really give good n practical advices, that is why i wrote my issue over here. coming back to the point, i am not just “passing time” with her or making her fool with filmi dialogues, i have talked with my mum and before a formal rishta, i casually met with her mother so that she can give her view about me before further proceeding. and yeah, she got engaged, i broke-up, hurt… that is why i lost those charms and feelings, kher, she loves me, respect me too much and i respect her as well, never did any thing wrong with her which may spoil her character (just hold her hand once 
) what thing is disturbing me is that k agar after marriage bhi main aisa he confuse banda raha tu problems create hunge.
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hitman: how old are you and your friend?
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I don’t think so. I think you’ll be in love with her even more so…inshallah.
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Catskin is right ... You're already loving her the way a mature man loves ... That what you felt before was just emotion ... Don't think that the loss of those feelings will cause problems ... You had to protect your heart from breaking so you have learnt to forget, now you are back with her so it must mean Allah wants this for you ... He accepted your du'as and this is how you react?
No, trust me what you are feeling is caution .... Nothing else ...
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Not that funny …
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^I kinda thought the mooncake part was funny...we were talking about it another thread, my smiley was refering to that, not this situation