Re: She was the one, i love a lot, but not anymore…
Look, if you don’t have ANY romantic feelings for this girl…then you need to STOP making mushy comments like “I’ll be with you till the crack of doom no matter what consequences take place” because that’s only going to confuse/mislead her. I personally think it’s hard to maintain strictly a friendship with your ex because it hinders the moving-on process…but if that’s what you want…then be careful with your words.
You can try to take a break from her…(let her know) and use that time apart to figure out your feelings for her. OR…if you’re absolutely certain that you don’t have any romantic feelings for her, then you need to be direct/honest with her. Tell her that while you were apart from her your romantic feelings for her diminished and that you don’t see her in the same way anymore…and that your feelings for her are that of a friendship than a romantic relationship.
You also need to understand that you can’t have everything your way. You ARE going to lose something in the process. That SOMETHING will be the dynamics of the relationship…they’re going to change because you don’t see her in the same light anymore. As a result…she may try to distance herself from you and she has every right to do so. She may not want to continue talking to you with the same intensity/frequency as she did before because she fears that she’ll get emotionally attached to you and that will prevent her from considering future rishtas. It’ll be like a trap for her. So, by telling her that you’re not in love with her…be prepared for the change that will come in the relationship …and understand her need to distance herself and respect her wishes. She can’t put her life on hold for you…she needs to move forward as well.
I do have romantic (lv) feelings for her(no that type of filmi romantic feelings), i am just not satisfied with my self and afraid of my future, don’t have any idea if i can give her true lv and care in future or not.