I was engaged when i was just 19.... now i m going to get married after a few months. I m living in abroad and my fiance she is living in pakistan.... i call her occasionally i always complains that she doesn't call me, is that right i should ask her to call me ? And whenever i call her she doesn't talk to me too much... i ask her, she sound's like she is a shy girl. I want that she talk to me so we could understand eachother. She is my Cousin. I want that she should to me and share her life and ideas with me but she doesn't do that :(.....
bro
keep cool ,
man
Gals in Pakistan are much more reserved then gals in west
and secondly
calling abroad from pakistan is way expensive esp for a girl who probably will not be doing job as in your case I think so askn her to call u would not be Ideal i think.
andy, naturally we can only hazard a guess as to why your fiancee is not calling you, may be she is shy, may be its considered inappropriate in her family or whatever, however, one thing you can safely tell her is that its cheaper to call from Pakistan. Right now I am in Pakistan, and I can call US using a calling card for Rs 100, that gives me 55 minutes. This turns out to be about Rs 2/minute (~ 3 cents/min). The cheapest calling plan I can find when calling from US was 5 cents, and most phone companies charge about 17 cents/min.
In any case, I doubt this is about money per se. Likely, its more about cultural inhibitations. Ask her.
Brother Faisal Thanks alot for your reply and all others........i knew that it is cheaper to call from pakistan. That's why i was pissed off a little.... and one more thing is that whenever i call .... i have to talk i have to ask i have to choose a topic ..... She Never tried to ask .... she just ask me usual things like strangers .... hi how are you....... and That's it. Sometime i when i call their land line, Someone else picks up the fone then like her mom or her brother then i just talk to them i never tried to ask them to give her my call they don't do that either. Then i get very frustrated.... but then i think it's useless coz let the right time come and see what happens.
Thanks Again All of you
Best Regards,
sir may be while talking to u her mother and family much be sitting infront of her that,s why she behave like a stanger yes this same thing happen with me when i was engeg my husband had also complained to me u never asked things like i am asking to u actually my mother was always sitting nearer to me and she always force me in gestures that i should not talk too much with him that,s my father also didnot like .........
................ohh.....................
that was the worst days in my life my fiance wanted to talk with me daily but i was unable to express my feeling
i was halfly mad
due to this situation
and i agreed from also the advices which people give u about bills expensive
yes this also a big problem calling abaord really cost a lot
And worst case scenario she doesnt have a personality :D J/K.. i wudnt be too worried abt it..i don' tthink her family would really object to it,since u said u talk to them as well and htey haven't expressed any dsiapproval of you talking to their daughter.
it's been 8 years now.:(.... but you know one day she told me that she is very scared of me, Coz when we were kids we used to play togather & i used to shout on all the other guys who were with me in childhood.
I was consider a very harsh person at that time, But you know what i think about myself that i m very patient :) I don't know what other people think about me. But i like myself what i m.
Anyways Now she is going to call me in a few days .... what should i do. How to Convince her that i m not a harsh person ..... that was our childhood person where everyone know nothing :) Now i have changed i m very polite indeed.:)
You’ve been engaged for 8 years??
just talk to her…
If she’s really scared of you or thinks badly of you then why is she still engaged to u then?
Just tell her..you’ve changed n stuff n u’d like her to talk more.
I was very nervous talking to him the first time, but we quickly became very comfortable, he understood n respected it, so he didnt push anything.. Also, wat hijab-e-zehra suggested might be right, she’s not comfortalbe talking to u in front of her family and sn’t really allowed to talk to u alone.
andy!! my problem exactly! i KNOW im such a nice person..but i cant convince my friends that im like that. they all think i always like my way. but you know..since ur gonna be talking to her..u have to impress her! i suggest u polish up ur sense of humor...because that is forsurely going to open up some closed doors. i always find that telling a good joke..or sharing a good philosophy helps the other person look into your soul..and not your habits. :)
Oh yeah, is talking to her on line, MSN/yahoo chat an optioN? Sometimes its easier to talk online than on the fone or in person (at least in beginning anyway), she (and you) can let your guard down slightly.
lo ji! i dont even know who you are! 
