She makes me so angry

[mizsani]

Re: She makes me so angry

@Lusi

^^ i am so sorry. may Allah help her change her behavior.ameen

@WendyDarling

Your MIL is evil. I’m sorry you had to go through that

@terebina786

I’m so sorry you had to endure that
My mom went through hell with her MIL… and when my mom would argue she would say put her in a mental institution. To this day my mom still has anxiety attacks because for the most part she would just sit quiety and do her chores while being berated. She did the same thing to my aunt as well after my parents left except my aunt was a gori and told her MIL where to put her two cents. Sometimes I really, really have to wonder how MILs get this way and why we’re supposed to just give them a pass because they’re older and your husband’s mom. Eff that noise… You get respect by giving it. Plain and simple.

I do not live with them anymore. I am so glad. I don’t think her actions were deliberate. I think she is just a bit clumsy and careless. What upset me was that she always thought she was right and never felt sorry for anything. Anyways, that is all in the past now.

Nadz… you need to think calmly and I really think you will benefit from being patient. Not too long ago I was upset with hubby for caring more about his family than me but now I am getting rewarded for my patience. Mashallah. He respects me for dealing with everything quietly and not creating any issues. He apologizes for putting me through all of that and he has changed a lot now. He speaks up for me even if it is things I don’t mind.

For example, Hubby and I were eating.. MIL brought a container, slammed it in front of me and asked me to put the left over food in it. Hubby and I were still eating so I moved the container to the side and continued eating and said “ji ammi.” Hubby got very upset and started explaining to his mom that she was being rude. I quietly said, “It’s ok. I don’t mind. It’s not a big deal.”
Was she a bit rude? Yes!
Did I react? No! Instead hubby appologized to me about it, said this is the reason he respects me and will never let go of me.
I did not react. I don’t let those things get to me because I loose respect if I do. Plus, I would constantly be frustrated if I were to let all these things get to me.
You need to evaluate whether you want respect and love in your relationship or constant competition… because you won’t make your MIL miserable, instead you will effect ur hubby, ur relationship, and your children.