im getting married in less than 2 months ah…my mom keeps reminding me that i HAVE to sit on the stage sharmaaing like crazy with my head down, minimal smiling absolutely NO TEETH SHOWING! and very very minimal talking…yeah shes the traditional mommy…
well…I CAN’T DO THAT!!! its MY WEDDING!! i mean i will of course be shy like a dulhan, but i dont wanna look down the whole time! i dont wanna miss my whole wedding cause i was staring at the floor the whole time…might as well bring a book to read right and an ipod to listen to right? and i only look good when i smile with my teeth…i WANT to talk to people that come on stage…but no im not gonna break out in a bhangra all the way out the hall during rukhsati…but i wanna enjoy it? but my family wants the traditional frozen statue dulhan at the wedding…
did any of you guys have problems with the whole sharmaa’ing rules? share!
I got married 8 yrs ago in karachi and my mom and assuming how the inlaws were i had to sit with my down and be a friggin statue. Well guess what, i missed my whole wedding. So advice to u all.. look around, have fun, smile and even say a hello. It's ur wedding afterall!!!! Oh lord and my mehndi, my inlaws had asked that my duppata cover my face cuz their side hadn't seen me and they wanted them to see me on the wedding day so I sat there for all my rasams covered completely staring at my feet (they did look cute) and having people shove ladoos down my throat. The only positive thing about covered up like that is no one knew i was spittin out ladoos left and right.
lol.. and that's why our parent's photos they looked so sad.. because they werent allowed to smile haahahaha or show excitement:P truly.. stupid and nonsensical .... and then ofcourse.. girl should cry on her bidaai.. if she doesn't then oh my god... why isn't she crying? definitely she knows this boy from before haahahaha
You know I was going to start a topic on this. I'm 19 so marriage-talk is a very distant thing at this point but I'm obsessed with weddings so I have given this some serious thought. My conclusion came down to:
I'm gonna enjoy my wedding and thank god my mom and dad are very open-minded people (not non-religious, just open minded so these kinda things don't faze them) and my mom encourages me to not be shy but rather confident and I totally agree! I am a naturally shy person and plus our family is conservative but screw everyone. As long as you are okay with it, family doesn't matter. Of course if your parents are okay with it, it makes everything so much easier.
I say you do what you want to do, they'll get over it anyway. *
What I find really funny is how shy/serious/modest a bride looks on the Barat, then you see the total opposite on the walima where she is over the moon lol
Anyways il probs looks nervous on my day but wont be puttin no front on.. Go with the flow...
Don't fake it. If you really feeling shy, then, sure, if that what makes you comfortable. If you are not, ENJOY your wedding. Look around, laugh, have fun, it's only going to happen once! I was feeling shy on my wedding butheck that did not stop me from enjoying my wedding. I looked around, fun, knew exactly what was going on, and had a REALLY GOOD TIME!
Don't fake it. If you really feeling shy, then, sure, if that what makes you comfortable. If you are not, ENJOY your wedding. Look around, laugh, have fun, it's only going to happen once! I was feeling shy on my wedding butheck that did not stop me from enjoying my wedding. I looked around, fun, knew exactly what was going on, and had a REALLY GOOD TIME!
D to the itto! I'm shy too but if you're getting married, you better be having the time of your life. And personally, all your candid pictures would look awesome too. Haye, I can't wait to get married! >.<
i think the best thing to do is to just be yourself.. :) some shy girls look very beautiful, that beeing said, if they are actually shy! and smiling and laughing brides look beautiful as well!
no way am i going to be the shy bride! not only am i going to talk and smile...but im also going to walk around and talk to my guests and show off my dress (as darcy says in pride and prejudice...the figure looks best when walking and standing).
im getting married in less than 2 months ah....my mom keeps reminding me that i HAVE to sit on the stage sharmaaing like crazy with my head down, minimal smiling absolutely NO TEETH SHOWING! and very very minimal talking...yeah shes the traditional mommy...
well...I CAN'T DO THAT??!!! its MY WEDDING!! i mean i will of course be shy like a dulhan, but i dont wanna look down the whole time! i dont wanna miss my whole wedding cause i was staring at the floor the whole time....might as well bring a book to read right and an ipod to listen to right? and i only look good when i smile with my teeth...i WANT to talk to people that come on stage...but no im not gonna break out in a bhangra all the way out the hall during rukhsati...but i wanna enjoy it? but my family wants the traditional frozen statue dulhan at the wedding...
did any of you guys have problems with the whole sharmaa'ing rules? share!
Hehehehe ... OMG your post made me laugh so much...go on, do that! the iPod and book bit!
Not married but think that you should definitely enjoy your wedding day. Every bride is different but go for it!
On my weddinhg I was naturally very shy and nervous for the first half, so have a few coy pictures of me, especially when I first met my husband and walked up to the stage. Then as I relaxed and friends and family started coming up to congratulate me I started looking up, smiling and really having a good time, so best of both I guess.
I think the best thing is to be yourself. Forced shyness will look fake, and reflect as such in your photos/video and too your guests.