In reference to a guy that you’re in the talking stages with, what is the appropriate response to sexual inuendos that pop up in a conversation? Or sexual references?
I know you guys are gonna want an example, so here.
After getting questioned whether after marriage would he keep going out with his buddies late at night, he says no, that he would spending time with the wife. The girl agrees that it’s better he goes out to dinner with his wife, to which the guy says “Go out?? I would keep her at home. I can think of lots of stuff to do at home that would be fun”.
As you can imagine, I laughed, then switched the conversation to my cold, and coughed on the phone to gross him out for added effect.
Is it appropriate to sexually joke around before marriage? I would think even harmless jokes can get out of hand easily.
Some flirtation is fine but it depends on how involved the two are and personalities. In initial talking stages it is dodgy to bring up and to respond. Lets just say if either of the two feel awkward, it's not the right time. Some of that flirtation could get into innuendos and that is an even more of a dodgy situation.
Reminds me of the time this guy gave me a ride and played "baanhon main chale aao" in the car. So hard not to laugh. lol
I try to ignore or change the subject.
It also depends on how the two people mesh and talk to one another, how open they are etc. One can usually get a feel for how open/conservative the other person is, and then talk to the person accordingly.
Hmmm I think you played it well, by
changing the subject. If it didn't make you feel uncomfortable like "wtf ew?" type uncomfortable then just laugh it off and pretend like you didn't get it like reha said lol. You'll know when your comfortable enough to respond back to comments like that. Like others have said, do as your comfortable and it depends on the two people and your chemistry.
Well..i believe that Sexual Inuendos mostly go along when ya have proper chemistry as SandS stated. Otherwise it is quiet awkward if ya're just even talking to female friend about this in my case.
It all depends, on how far involved are you guys in the pre-marriage discussion.
If this was a one time thing then he must have picked up on your "answer" when you changed the topic.
However if he keeps bringing this topic back again every now and then, well then you just have to openly ask what his intentions are lol
maybe he is talking about playing ludo or cards or watching movies and you perceived it the other way since you were looking forward to getting him into sexual talk ?
this is why they say when two non mehrams of opposite gender are left alone,the third one there is shaitan !!
One of the Satan’s means to tempt people into sin, is privacy with non-mahram women, for this reason the Shar’iah has prohibited it. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, “A man does not meet privately with a woman without the Satan being the third (present).” (Tirmithi)
this is why they say when two non mehrams of opposite gender are left alone,the third one there is shaitan !!
One of the Satan’s means to tempt people into sin, is privacy with non-mahram women, for this reason the Shar’iah has prohibited it. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, “A man does not meet privately with a woman without the Satan being the third (present).” (Tirmithi)
^ and I always thought 3rd one is hidden camera ... :D
