Re: Sexual intimacy - Taboo
Desi women/girls find it repulsive?
Ever heard of deodorant? lol
I think repulsive is a strong word.
If a woman does find it repulsive then, man is not approaching her the right way.
Being 'messy' right from the beginning is one bad approach!
Most women are like old car engine, which takes a little while to warm up!
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^@ bigdaddy
speak for your self. i know all the men in this world aren't as narrow minded as you. not all of them see it as lies. there are different types of people all over the world, all have done different things in their life. you know nothing about the character of the girls on this forum and you have no right to accuse them of anything.
Its all very confusing. On one hand these american desi women claim to have never kissed or touched anything. But, on the other hand they know every thing there is to know only because of porn.
Lies, lies and more lies is all we see. Now thats something to roll your eyes about.
I wouldn't make assumptions. I know more anatomy than your daddy.
How, when, where, in what capacity, I wouldn't start judging.
eye rolling wala icon X 1000
^ I misunderstood so the porn is to understand human anatomy. Got it. I thought it was to explore intimacy which was the topic being discussed in the thread.
When you are in a hole you should stop digging, ya know.
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Ladies, please ignore bigdaddy and his comments. He is/was/always will be offensive...its in his blood and since he cant do anything about it...its not his fault.
Now, the topic at hand:
I dont think women find intimacy disgusting at all...its actually the unromantic side we find a bit hard to digest.
When sex is linked to someone you love and is enjoyed by both parties, it can be a beautiful thing. Women like intimacy, the intimate side being love and chemistry.
Its when you hear of crude references to a woman's anatomy or dirty jokes that women tend to get repulsed and thats pretty natural.
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I think anyone would get repulsed if they found themselves to be meat market objects. That reeks of disrespect. And unlike men, women are not that desperate to drill.
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Are you kidding me???? Women are perhaps more sex obsessed than men. It's just that in Asian cultures they'd never admit it because it's not the done thing. They won't admit it before men for sure, and they won't even admit it in a wider circle of women - like the conversation will always be about how much everyone hates sex with their husbands.
But once they're inside their closest and most intimate circle (eg. absolute closest girlfriends/cousins etc) just try getting them to shut up. They talk about how much, how often, how long, shapes, sizes, textures, seriously it gets more graffic than anything you can find online.
By contrast men don't relish going into such depth of detail. It's the women who kiss and tell!!! It's hard to believe but it's true.
Women are culturally conditioned not to admit they love sex, but behind that facade they're a bunch of wild women dressed in nice neat little shalwar kameezes. Men don't know this because they're not privy to that inner circle where the x rated talk goes on.
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Women are more passionate or what do you call it "more obsessed about sex" but women are also more modest naturally.
:rotato:
I think anyone would get repulsed if they found themselves to be meat market objects. That reeks of disrespect. And unlike men, women are not that desperate to drill.
Hummmmmm!
Isn't this porn is all about?
Can't comment on last sentence. Would be inappropriate.
Not all porn shows women in that 'meat market' light, there are genres that cater specifically to women and couples (ie the intention is that a wife would not feel uncomfortable watching with hubby) with storylines etc., the woman being shown is in control and enjoying herself rather than being treated only as a 'sex object' or her sole role being only to satisfy the male(s) as is obviously the case with a lot of porn..
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Diwana. Porn is just a term I threw out there. It comes in other forms than what YOU may be used to. But facts are facts. I'm talking about women in general here. Not necessarily desi girls. But go to the romance section in a bookstore and read one of those books. Or ask some dude at blockbuster how many nc-17s he has seen rented to women. Or look at the data on porn websites and porn tv channels and find out how much of the audience is female. And even then you have no real estimate because so much of it can't be traced to determine if viewers/readers are men or women.
And you people think desi women are boring. Pshaw. The stuff I hear from my married friends - I might as well bring porn videos to those parties.
Not all porn shows women in that 'meat market' light, there are genres that cater specifically to women and couples (ie the intention is that a wife would not feel uncomfortable watching with hubby) with storylines etc., the woman being shown is in control and enjoying herself rather than being treated only as a 'sex object' or her sole role being only to satisfy the male(s) as is obviously the case with a lot of porn..
:-)
I must say if someone has to watch porn to learn to be intimate ............then it is time for them to go back to kindergarten again....or potty train again.
Many many women enjoy giving more, than taking the pleasure. They are just happy to please!
There has been a study which showed vast majority of women were quite happy with just the intimacy and something more, without getting to the point of climax.
Not to reduce the importance of 'climax' but a lot of women never had the 'climax' in reality and still quite happy and satisfied.
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Are flaming mad???????????
The health benefits of orgasm are tremendous and that only 30 % of women experience it is NOT satisfactory!! They may tell you they're happy but inside they're jealous of the girl who does climax. This is a problem that needs to be WORKED on, not dismissed.
How disrespectful. Oh they're just sooooo happy to serve!!!! Hmph. That's the mentality of desi men innit? MORE reasons to not marry a brown guy!!
lol -Diwana!
For real - guys just do not understand the statement you made above!
but it is true.
Are flaming mad???????????
The health benefits of orgasm are tremendous and that only 30 % of women experience it is NOT satisfactory!! They may tell you they're happy but inside they're jealous of the girl who does climax. This is a problem that needs to be WORKED on, not dismissed.
How disrespectful. Oh they're just sooooo happy to serve!!!! Hmph. That's the mentality of desi men innit? MORE reasons to not marry a brown guy!!
Please don't be mad. I do see your point though. :-)
I merely stated the consensus and my experiences.
It is true that some may just be saying that they are happy and satisfied. And yes they may feel jealous of others being able to achieve the climax. But if they never had experienced before so how would they know what they are missing?
There are those women who had experienced but then due to different reasons they lose it and then they miss it. Sad affair :-(
(As a side note, men should be jealous of women being able to achieve multiple orgasms!)
It is all across the board that in general women do feel happy to serve, weather it is their men or children or family members. It is a complement not being disrespectful. Sorry you took it wrong way.
Besides white, black or brown, no difference in men being good or bad when it comes to relationship. It is just a matter of choosing, liking or plain and simple luck! I am aware of your thoughts about desi men.... sorry you feel this way!
LOL
I know the example was crude but yes, it is true!
Diwana. Porn is just a term I threw out there. It comes in other forms than what YOU may be used to. But facts are facts. I'm talking about women in general here. Not necessarily desi girls. But go to the romance section in a bookstore and read one of those books. Or ask some dude at blockbuster how many nc-17s he has seen rented to women. Or look at the data on porn websites and porn tv channels and find out how much of the audience is female. And even then you have no real estimate because so much of it can't be traced to determine if viewers/readers are men or women.
And you people think desi women are boring. Pshaw. The stuff I hear from my married friends - I might as well bring porn videos to those parties.
Sorry I missed this post earlier.
PCG, I am very well aware of what you you are inferring to.
I have hard time believing a 'large number' of women might be watching porn of any kind, soft to hard core including western women. Even the western women with open society disapprove anything close to 'porn'. A 'R' rated may be OK for them but not NR/X kind of stuff. Now curiosity may make them try once in while but not to the extent of usual men. I am only talking about common and majority women here.
1- One reason here might be that women do not want or encourage their men to be horny all the time, it is like protecting their asset. What if the man want more than what is available to him at home?
While men like lady in living room and not so lady-like in bedroom, women on the other hand don't like 'studs' running around at home or outside.
2- Also, most porn (soft to hard) cater to men not to women.
3- Men have testosterone which has wilder effect than female hormones. That is why in order to increase women libido, testosterone like chemical may work.
And regarding desi women being boring?, I will say it may be their inhibition because of the social taboo or family background, they just need to be encouraged, that's all. And believe me, in this regard, there is no difference between desi and non-desi women.
diwana, men AND women have testosterone. That's what creates the sex drive in both genders - the more the testosterone the higher your sex drive. And also makes women hairy. Have you seen how hairy us Asian women are? Case closed my friend!!! All this stuff about women don't look at porn etc is rubbish. There are female producers that cater just to the female porn consumer.
And the thing about women not missing what they've never known is BULLSH*T. Your body will always know what it's missing. Woman have wet dreams just like men so pretty much all women know what an orgasm feels like even if they don't have a word to put to it. It's a very selfish attitude to assume that women don't mind about not having an orgasm.
A few women have a medical problem that prevents orgasm, same as a few men. But to just assume that a sweet little desi woman doesn't mind you taking all the butter for just your paratha is wrong!!! A selfless lover will always ensure his partner is satisfied and can tell when she's just pretending.
Seriously gents, it's not brain surgery. The perfect combination is when two partners care about each others pleasure and therefore each covers the others needs. Anyone who thinks lovemaking is just sitting back and the other person do all the work needs a slap (applicable to both genders)
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Goes and vomits
Sorry, I thought I could hold it, but ... vomits more