A serious discussion for once. I have noticed on average on this forum, that girls find sexual intimacy repulsive…lets not confuse that romantic intimacy which is a different character all together. So why such a reviled reaction to the concept where romantic intimacy is directly linked to the sexual kind.
Culture maybe?
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I do find that guys are more comfortable with the whole notion of fluids exchange, oral etc. It sure is a messy business.
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Culture it is. Funnily enough, nobody wants to talk about it, but nearly everybody is doing it 
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Messy would be an adequate description. But I have generally found that women generally are more involved in the romantic aspect. Which is more than acceptable. Romance plays its part in a relationship and it is a necessary method by which people get to know each other and get to feel more comfortable with each other.
However when it comes to issues of sexual intimacy, and I don't mean getting naked and banging like animals, but general things like general physical contact are seen as replusive. Ideas that come from that "25 things guys find cute' or what not, are the comments of her jumping on the guy randomly and stay put on his lap and stuff. Or the wet hair thing and a few others.
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Ewwww
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It is cultural. Pakistanis are human too and would do the same if it wasnt frowned upon. I wouldn’t jump onto a bfs lap in front of desis, but in front of my other friends - no problemo. Infact, wouldnt even let desis know I have a bf 
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Your mocking sarcasm is noted dildirani. While the point is taken Kitty Kat, its rather odd to see any desi couple show any physical display of affection, its all at a 10 meter distance. Let alone issues of tackle hugging the husband on the way to work or back. Or sitting his lap, or any act of physical/sexual intimacy.
Nailed it!
There is no messy business in romance. Intimacy requires the exchange which can be certainly avoided in my books. However, the contact (hugs, laying down head on a man’s shoulder, the hug, more hugs, cuddling - all part of the intimacy / foreplay are all on top of this world!!!).
I don’t think “culture” plays any part in the bedroom.
Culture plays a HUGE role for men and women, especially women, in the bedroom! This idea is still predominate in the east because it is taboo for women to enjoy sex, if it may be romance or sexual intimacy, however, in the west, we’re getting further and further away from this idea and THANK GOD for that!!!
I was going to open a similar thread, after looking at the “25 things guys find cute.” That why is it that our Pakistani ladies do not feel comfortable doing these cute things? The answer…
#1. In the west and some in the east, ARE comfortable, we just don’t give them credit!
**#2. As i said before, men are also affected by culture in the bedroom, some of them have this mindset that his wife should be this innocent little creature, and he’s gonna teach her everything. Well hate to break it to you buddy, that maybe shes just a “freak in the bed” but now shes not gonna be a “freak” because as soon as she makes the first move, the hubby is going to assume she has done everything before:smack: **
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Sometimes the women are interested in just small intimacy, ie. holding hands or hugging etc...and its the man who finds any sort of touching repulsive.
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it also depend on religion it is not just taboo in culture but in religion also girls find this topic taboo and hard to talk bout to their also moms
yes you are absolutely right…
(I think I was not sure what I was talking about when I said culture don’t play roles in bedroom… ummmm let’s cancel that part).
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Intimacy is something b/w wife and husband that people (specially girls) dont want to share specially not with guys, not on public forum.
Just because someone does not discuss something, does not mean they don't like or do that thing.
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^agreed.
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The issue is not discussion of intimacy issues or acts. The issue is the revulsion shown to something that can be deemed natural. Whatever the act or discussion, the fact that desi women find some of the things in the 25 list thread wrong is shocking.
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You can’t just say, “desi women find some of the things in the 25…” thats BIG TIME generalizing!
because some of us thought eveything in there was cute:snooty:
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In my self-defense I would like to state I am a chauvinistic pig :p
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I think sexual intimacy is very very private. Don't need to discuss it with every other guy walking down the street. Its something only me and my husband share. Not for the world to know or see. Thats what makes the act "intimate" and not only sexual, something special that only the two of us share.
I didnt find anything wrong with any of those things 
maybe you are just a chauvinistic pig 
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Unelss they are repulsive where it actually matters, I thinks its all good.
Women don't need to talk like us men.
We can always call those 1-900- numbers for dirty talk.