Re: Sexting before Nikkah
Am I the only one who didn’t care for the Op’s tone in both of his sexting threads? I don’t like that his posts carry an undertone of dismissal and what sounds like even amusement to me at times.
“If it were some selfish person, he would have said meh.”
Oh but your friend is selfish. When he hinted/suggested/initiated (whatever you wanna call it) the sexting after only knowing this girl for 2 days as per your last thread…tell me who was your friend thinking of at that time? Certainly not the girl. He was thinking about himself and his desires. You don’t think that’s selfish? Later on he started doubting the girl’s character for committing the same mistake that she did. Was he not selfish in his judgment? And then he had reservations about the girl’s height and her physical handicap. If he met the girl in person, then he was well aware of her physical “flaws” from the beginning but it didn’t deter him from attempting to sext with her. Is that not selfish? He did “use” her for his own lust…and the word “use” may seem distasteful to you but it doesn’t change the reality that he used her. You seem to think that “izzat” is only confined to something physical like zina. But izzat is a quality that is also reflected in the way that a person speaks, behaves, dresses, carries himself. The way he treated her does not reflect izzat or “genuineness” of character. It does not reflect respect/izzat for her. When in doubt a guy should just replace girl in the equation with his sister or daughter and if it disturbs/disgusts/infuriates him…then that lets him know that his actions were maybe not as genuine or decent as he’d like to believe.