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Yeah you're absolutely right. My comfort level is probably not the same as hers. LOL shes stated "romantic womantic koi nahi :P ab guzara karo tum" but at the same time I'll turn her into one ;) All metals have a melting point. I am engaged to her lol
That's so sweet.
Please ignore my previous comment about sex being on your mind and stuff...I should've read your posts before commenting.
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You didn’t say that 
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i like coughcough. noone pick on him
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Yeah I realise I sound like I'm way too young for these forums with that question -__- And also it does seem as if I'm kind of throwing all Pakistani girls into one category and trying to write a "HOW TO" article, which is obviously WRONG.
But I've tried several ways to get her to tell me how she feels about this whole set up but I can never get a straight answer. And ofcourse I don't want to say it in a way that may seem like I'm crossing some sort of line.
Well, desi girls are not programmed for straight answers...we're taught that its besharam to be direct and so open about our feelings and wants. You won't get one.
bus bhi karoo.....
lol
Seriously, it sounds like she's into you. So let it progress naturally.
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Well, desi girls are not programmed for straight answers...we're taught that its besharam to be direct and so open about our feelings and wants. You won't get one.
unless of course its about guy's mother :)
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Okay well, what do you want a girl to do? Obviously she’s going to say something agar usko kisi ki taraf se shikayat hai.
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Look at the title. lol
Dude, seems like the only thing your mind is "sex". Not impressive.
I used it to get attention so people would check out this thread. I'm not too sure if you should be criticising me about that. I never raised sex as an issue in this thread simply because its not really what I'm concerned about.
And you can't say it was a bad strategy to get attention :P
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is the issue of long distance related to your use of the word 'really'?
just curious
I used it to get attention so people would check out this thread. I'm not too sure if you should be criticising me about that. I never raised sex as an issue in this thread simply because its not really what I'm concerned about.
And you can't say it was a bad strategy to get attention :P
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And you can't say it was a bad strategy to get attention :P
Oh I agree with that. lol
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My apologies if my intentions came off like that. But like I stated in the quoted reply above it was not my intention and it’s not something I’m really concerned about. Sex is just an effective tool in media and advertising so I thought it could be a light joke here.
Sorry if I have offended anyone.
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My apologies if my intentions came off like that. But like I stated in the quoted reply above it was not my intention and it's not something I'm really concerned about. Sex is just an effective tool in media and advertising so I thought it could be a light joke here.
Sorry if I have offended anyone.
I take my comment back! The title did give those vibes but I hadn't read your posts. You seem a nice guy. And I think your fiancee is a sweet person too. Just take it slowly, she'd open up with time once she gets to that trust level :)
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She is being romantic by blushing. You should be proud that she is this way. Some people will give an eye and a tooth to find a girl like her, in this day and age
romance can be having an icecream together. romance can be her sending you a surprise gift or giving you a surprise call to cheer you up. it can be sharing your stories and discussing people and gossiping together:p it can be praising her for something or viceversa!
that should be enough romance for now:) and be glad you got a sweet girl there! and dont ask for more:p
You wanted a Pakistani blushing bride, so you got one. That's the way many are. That's the cultural ideal. Girls aren't supposed to "know" anything -- if she knows about sex -- real sex -- why, then how would she have gotten this information? She would be considered be-huda even to know such things, much less to talk about them. Sweet and innocent is what you asked for, right? Really, the conversations between girls and guys in Pakistan are at about what is typical at middle school level in the west. People in Pakistan and India get their concepts of romance and relationships from Bollywood. Think about the heroines and the romances of these movies: that's how Pakistani girls think they should behave. Also, remember she may not have had a lot of opportunity to speak with non-family guys and therefore is not completely comfortable talking about intimate things with you. You are used to Australian gender dynamics. You don't get that with Pakistani girls.
And anyway, her job is to keep you panting and impatient, and it seems to be working.;)
Again its not about sex. I'm not trying to get her to tell me her turn off's or on's or anything of that nature.
I certainly hope she dosen't get concept of romance from bollywood, particulary nowadays.
She is a wonderful girl. I was just wondering why she often held back expressing her emotions. She is affectionate as I have stated earlier, but she does also tend to hold back. I guess she is just used to a different pace than I am, whether that be a cultural teaching or a personal response, and I should meet her halfway. It's the right thing to do.
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My apologies if my intentions came off like that. But like I stated in the quoted reply above it was not my intention and it's not something I'm really concerned about. Sex is just an effective tool in media and advertising so I thought it could be a light joke here.
Sorry if I have offended anyone.
Dude, you don't need to apologize! Your intent was very clear that it was an attention grabbing thing. Some people are just wound up too tightly here, and will take any chance to bring you down.
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romance can be having an icecream together. romance can be her sending you a surprise gift or giving you a surprise call to cheer you up. it can be sharing your stories and discussing people and gossiping together:p it can be praising her for something or viceversa!
that should be enough romance for now:) and be glad you got a sweet girl there! and dont ask for more:p
You wanted a Pakistani blushing bride, so you got one. That's the way many are. That's the cultural ideal. Girls aren't supposed to "know" anything -- if she knows about sex -- real sex -- why, then how would she have gotten this information? She would be considered be-huda even to know such things, much less to talk about them. Sweet and innocent is what you asked for, right? Really, the conversations between girls and guys in Pakistan are at about what is typical at middle school level in the west. People in Pakistan and India get their concepts of romance and relationships from Bollywood. Think about the heroines and the romances of these movies: that's how Pakistani girls think they should behave. Also, remember she may not have had a lot of opportunity to speak with non-family guys and therefore is not completely comfortable talking about intimate things with you. You are used to Australian gender dynamics. You don't get that with Pakistani girls.
And anyway, her job is to keep you panting and impatient, and it seems to be working.;)
I take my comment back! The title did give those vibes but I hadn't read your posts. You seem a nice guy. And I think your fiancee is a sweet person too. Just take it slowly, she'd open up with time once she gets to that trust level :)
That's so sweet.
Please ignore my previous comment about sex being on your mind and stuff...I should've read your posts before commenting.
Thank you both for your kind words. I don't blame either of you. I guess "SEX" wasn't the greatest of ideas to use as a title LOL
And yeah, I just need to take it slow and relax :) She is a wonderful person and I should be acting so greedy and trying to jump the gun.
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Again its not about sex. I'm not trying to get her to tell me her turn off's or on's or anything of that nature.
I certainly hope she dosen't get concept of romance from bollywood, particulary nowadays.
She is a wonderful girl. I was just wondering why she often held back expressing her emotions. She is affectionate as I have stated earlier, but she does also tend to hold back. I guess she is just used to a different pace than I am, whether that be a cultural teaching or a personal response, and I should meet her halfway. It's the right thing to do.
I think she's saving all the feelings for future, after the marriage and stuff.
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Dude, you don't need to apologize! Your intent was very clear that it was an attention grabbing thing. Some people are just wound up too tightly here, and will take any chance to bring you down.
Bunch of losers if they are like that. I won't let any of those bring me down :) they can try their best.
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I think she's saving all the feelings for future, after the marriage and stuff.
Yeah it might be that too. Hopefully that IS the case lol it would much more better and pleasant after marriage anyway :)
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Again its not about sex. I'm not trying to get her to tell me her turn off's or on's or anything of that nature.
I certainly hope she dosen't get concept of romance from bollywood, particulary nowadays.
She is a wonderful girl. I was just wondering why she often held back expressing her emotions. She is affectionate as I have stated earlier, but she does also tend to hold back. I guess she is just used to a different pace than I am, whether that be a cultural teaching or a personal response, and I should meet her halfway. It's the right thing to do.
I understand where you are coming from. She is expressing her emotions by doing what a girl her age and background do to express their emotions.
People in some areas of Pakistan still have those values where the girls get all shy and blush and do not say a word when you are being romantic with them. This is their way of expressing their likeness for you. If they would not like you then they will tell their mom , dad , brother or use their chappal to express their feelings.
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You gotta watch out for them reserved girls. She's just putting up a shy front for now. After the wedding celebrations are over, she'll jump you and you won't see it coming.
Then you'll be the one turning forty shades of mottled red and purple...and telling her "bas bhi karo tum."