Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

[Impulse]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@hussain87

egjectly man its non of parents business to tell boys/girls not or to have physical relationship with their husband/wife after or before rukhsati:halo: …

I agree with you. personally I dont have anything against having physical relationship before rukhsati..

the only thing is i wouldnt want to get pregnant…before rukhsati…so I guess thats the problem we’re talking about in this thread.

[Afridi786]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

Yah, do it but use two contraceptives. Doubly Effective.

[Impulse]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Afridi786

Yah, do it but use two contraceptives. Doubly Effective.

great idea :k:

Afridi, you’re not as immature as people make you out to be

[Afridi786]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

Not sure if that's sarcasm or not...[thinking]

[Impulse]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Afridi786

Not sure if that's sarcasm or not...[thinking]

no seriously I wasnt being sarcastic. I just say things straight...sarcasm isnt for me.

i had never thought of that before....I suppose if someone uses double protection.....the chances of getting pregnant are almost nil. cuz each method is 99% reliable and if you double that....the chances of getting pregnant are almost none.

[Afridi786]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

Then it becomes 198 % reliable, I like those odds...lol.

[Muslim_Met_Fan]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Aishaaa2.1

what if shes not comfortable and wants to wait?

Then she's doing something against her husband's wishes.

[hussain87]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Impulse

I agree with you. personally I dont have anything against having physical relationship before rukhsati..

the only thing is i wouldnt want to get pregnant…before rukhsati…so I guess thats the problem we’re talking about in this thread.

baji nowadays there r tonnes of ways to prevent that from happening :o …anyway in islam no1 has the rite to ask what u do or not do with ur husband/wife not even ur parents :halo: …its between 2 ppl and ppl who share their personal life with their family r committing sin…if there r physical prob between u to go to doctor …u don,t tell ur family nor have they rite to ask u about that:) …

[b4babaji]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Silver Falcon Of Kashmir

Excuse me,did I read you correctly.What’s the basis of your argument that Islam doesn’t allow it.Culturally,it may be considered ‘immoral’(which makes one wonder if the nikaah itself has not legitemized it,what will!).

Sorry but you comment on the good husband made me laugh:omg:
P.S. Please stop confusing culture and social traditions with religion.

agreed.

[ImranQ]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@hussain87

…why don,t they understand that these traditions go against the nature of islam and as muslim to give them so much importence is totally **unislamic **!!:halo: …i don,.t know but this culture **** has messed up whole pakistan cuz ppl mix it with their religioun to backup their unislamic social customs:o …

You have to prove bold part first, whining later!

[ImranQ]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Impulse

no seriously I wasnt being sarcastic. I just say things straight…sarcasm isnt for me.

i had never thought of that before…I suppose if someone uses double protection…the chances of getting pregnant are almost nil. cuz each method is 99% reliable and if you double that…the chances of getting pregnant are almost none.

for that one need to have enduranc e n loads of lubricants

[yourfriend]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Impulse

no seriously I wasnt being sarcastic. I just say things straight...sarcasm isnt for me.

i had never thought of that before....I suppose if someone uses double protection.....the chances of getting pregnant are almost nil. cuz each method is 99% reliable and if you double that....the chances of getting pregnant are almost none.

then why do IT anyways? what would he get out of it?

[S02]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Gemini the Great

all those people who are arguing against the delayed rukhsati should also consider that there could be a lot of issues for delaying the rukhsati such as immigration issues

In that case, if the bride and groom are apart, then obviously sex isn’t an option. I can see that there are reasons for delayed ruksati, but if you’re planning on having sex, what’s the point?

Islamically, there’s nothing wrong with having sex once you have a nikkah. The concept of the ruksati is a cultural one. However, as Lusi and others have pointed out, the consummation of a marriage is something celebrated Islamically. To do it hidden and lying to parents/family seems disrespectful to the institution of marriage itself.

If the issue is that the guy isn’t ready to support the girl, then they could live with one set of parents or the other. The parents are supporting them anyway.

[S02]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Khaloo_Khalil

Haq Allah!!
Nikah is a marital agreement between the bride and the groom. This IS marraige. Rukhsati, mehndi, mayooN are just the products of culture/tradition. Once a couple enters into the contract of marraige (Nikah), they can go ahead with the process of pro-creation.
**By the way there is no place for “sex” in Islam. It is the act of pro-creation. Sex is merely for physical pleasure…a negative feeling, illegitimate. Procreation is the same act which is done for carrying forward your generation, a legitimate act for married couples. This is how Allah has made the same pleasurable act legal as well as illegal. To answer your question specifically, YES…the couple after entering into the marraige contract (Nikah) can do the act of pro-creation. As a matter of fact they must do it ASAP. The delay in it (referred to as rukhsati) may cause disturbance for the couple and “Gunah” (sin) for those involved in the delay for the couple to “meet”.
**

There are Hadith that talk about the Prophet SAW being with his wives even when they were menstruating (not intercourse, but other sexual activities). Clearly sex for pleasure isn’t prohibited.

[HOPEFULL]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Muslim Met Fan

Then she’s doing something against her husband’s wishes.

IF you had done so without her wishes isnt that the same thing too ?

Do u think the prophet woulda forced himself on his wife against her wishes? I think not!

[Kaka_MaNNa]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

Rukhsati is not a condition for marriage nor is it a condition for nikah. However, Nikah is the condition for safe, sinless sex. So, sex after nikah is valid, pure and totally okay, ruksati can go to hell.

Since we are all izaat daar people, just make sure that girl doesn't get pregnant and girls let the guy know if you are on your monthly routine (misery) so the guy doesn't become a sick dog that he is.

You can try playing around, explore each other and do the deed when ruksati *lanaat *is done.

[Afridi786]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

You people & sex...disgusting.

[Kaka_MaNNa]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Afridi786

You people & sex...disgusting.

You are a *product *of sex too.

[Max4Speed]

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@Jaan Leva

Rukhsati is not a condition for marriage nor is it a condition for nikah. However, Nikah is the condition for safe, sinless sex. So, sex after nikah is valid, pure and totally okay, ruksati can go to hell.

Since we are all izaat daar people, just make sure that girl doesn’t get pregnant and girls let the guy know if you are on your monthly routine (misery) so the guy doesn’t become a sick dog that he is.

You can try playing around, explore each other and do the deed when ruksati *lanaat *is done.

Mufti Sahab - Did you look into this when it was needed?

[Afridi786]

Re: Sex in the time between NIKAH and RUKHSATI

@Jaan Leva

You are a *product *of sex too.

No, I'm a product of procreation.