Sex Education & Muslim Youth

[hareem01]

Re: Sex Education & Muslim Youth

@USResident

Guys we need some chill pills here. Everyone stop and take deep breath. I think we have escalated here into misunderstanding. Sr. Hareem might have chosen the wrong words or lets say presented them without the proper context and certain people here have just blown it out of proportion.

I think Hareem and Psyah were only trying to state that at a young age when children are incapable of understanding or comprehending the enjoyments of sex it is better to deter them from it until they are old enough to understand it. At that stage we can freely educate them about it and also with whatever are beliefs state about it i.e. sin or no sin. Her comments were about kids not adults but unfortunately we see adults here behaving childishly and more inappropriate than kids, what a shame.

You have to explain kids in a language they can comprehend and correlate to. Explaining them the joys of sex will definitely be not comprehendible to them at a young and tender age but yet it will give them the idea that it is something good. We teach kids to do good things and if you go this route it will be difficult for you to deter them later when they question you back about, I thought we were supposed to do good things and you taught us sex is a good enjoyable thing, then why are you stopping us. Things like these should be taught when they have more perspective of the world and their bodies and a little more mature.

Now in non-muslim cultures (not all but many) dating and other activities leading to pre-marital sex are not frowned upon so frequently but rather encouraged. This is not the way of muslims. We do not and should not educate our children about sex in a way that leads them to the idea that it can be experimented with out of the bounds of marriage when they are mature enough to handle it.

I think we need to stop mixing our arguments as if we are discussing adults or even teen kids who are capable of understanding. Hareems comments were more aimed at toddler kids or kindergarten level kids.

Folks be nice and be fair.

JazakAllah for the clarification…