Mem, you should NOT have xplained yourself cuz you don't have to xplain these ignorant lowlifers who judge others and call them "sluts" either for having a boyfrnd or for sex b4 mariage. They are NOT t/ ones you'll be answering to. Waste of time and energy girl!
Mem-Sahib,
If by chance a sentence or two was aimed at me...
I felt a compulsion in emphasizing repeatedly that pre-marital intimacy is a grave sin. You agree on that dont you? There is no way it can be justified. Not in any way, regardless of ones personal rational beleifs.
Frankly, if you chose to do such and such, it would be ur choice. However, for the sake of the other readers I felt a compulsion in saying the same thing over and over again. In a way those posts werent directly aimed at you.
Its funny though how some people can say "keeping Islam aside, what would you do". A muslims rationality should never gain preference over something that is to such a degree exlicitly forbidden in Islam. It is also futile to discuss which sin is greater or greatest, and what is a minor sin. That is such a dangerous way of thinking!
You came to the conclusion that you disfavor pre-marital intimacy because of certain considerations you made. In my point of view doing such thing is not even something to be considered. Even doing this considering thing is, moves one outside the boundaries of Islam.
I also react when some people here supported you by asserting "yes yes..we know ur in a difficult situtation..and we will be ur friends no matter what decision you make"..kind of at least, and that I dont know about the emotional tornado you must be experiencing. I do, but still it doesnt change the facts, whatsoever.
As I mentioned my posts werent only aimed at you, but anyone who might think "its not THAT bad...pyaar mein esa hota he" because of what you wrote.
As far as the person who called you names is concerned, he isnt even worth answering.
Thank you Funky desi.. I just felt the need to explain because this so called *well brought up muslim girl * called me a slut for something I didnt even do!
I know it was a waste of energy!:
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Originally posted by FunkyDesi:
Mem, you should NOT have xplained yourself cuz you **don't have to xplain these ignorant lowlifers who judge others and call them "sluts" either for having a boyfrnd or for sex b4 mariage. They are NOT t/ ones you'll be answering to. Waste of time and energy girl!**
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As earlier posted ... this thread has gone a full circle and is now closed.