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A Punjabi who speaks in South Indian accent is absolute disgrace, he can never get married to a Punjaban, so you might be his only option, I therefore recommend that you marry him.
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HIM: Y' NAWWWW???
ME: NO I DO NOT KNOW!
Is it legit to not go forward with a rishta because you know your friends will be laughing at you and your husband for the rest of your life, and because you will want to put on headphones every day?
They guy is in IT for God sake. Marry him, and you will be laughing at your friends when he is going to be bringing in good six figure income, while your friend who can speak English like Shakespeare is still driving his 1996 Toyota Corolla.
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I don't think he has a fancy job. He isn't a hardware engineer
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shudders Corollas
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This.
And at the same time I would like to add this
:halo:
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I don't think he has a fancy job. He isn't a hardware engineer
You don't have to be a hardware engineer to make a six figure salary.
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Can't you guys talk in Urdu? Hopefully his Urdu is better than his angrezi and I know your Urdu isn't shabby either. At least that way you get to understand what he's saying.
Other than that, it is what it is. I wouldn't count on his accent changing. And I'm surprised he didn't pickup a local accent despite going to high school here. Some people just don't have an ear for it or just don't care for it much.
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^ especially because Southies speak urdu with an impeccable accent.
Toyota Corolla kitna deti hai?
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I dunno why you’re having so many issues getting married and I have no idea why you’re picking freshys as potential life partners. I’m sure there’s plenty of single asian guys in the US who will marry you, unless of course you’re doing something which is detering them.
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He speaks in Kerla accent?Then he must be `Queer'. :DCheck if he has GS account.
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But @queer jan is already taken. Unless, of course, he is on the lookout for a second wife? 
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What if he wants to stalk our esteemed member **g,indisguise? 
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He’s from Punjab not South India 
. His Urdu accent might be more palatable.
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As picky as it may seem sometimes the little things can really get on ones nerves. I was eating dinner somewhere and the person in front of me was making a lot of noise while eating. I thought I could tolerate it but the end of the dinner I wanted to head butt the person.
Accents can be tricky things but exposure to you and your friends might weaken it. That's a risk you will be taking if you give this guy a chance but the odds are that it'll remain the same. Just upto you if you can tolerate it long term.
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He hasn't lived in Pakistan since the age of 15/16. He's barely been back except once - that too to help accompany his sister so she could get clothes made and shopping done. (stand up guy). So, his Urdu isn't great either. Fam is punjabi and they only speak punjabi at home. I don't speak punjabi.
I am debating whether I should take sign language classes and make him learn it too.
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Do you even like this guy enough to marry him? If you can't see past his accent, then you are clearly not that attracted to him. That's a bigger problem then the accent itself, better to find someone born and brought up where you are from. Don't force yourself into it just because he has an IT job, factors like compatibility and likeness can't be ignored.
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Told ya, Saeed.
Give him a chance, PCG.
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Honestly, I used to think it wasn't a big deal for me and that people are so superficial to look at something like that as a negative until I was faced with the same situation. The guy's been in the US for 14+ years but he had the strongest accent i've ever heard on a desi and he had this general, stereotypical view of desis raised abroad which just ticked me off. It's these kinds of guys that made me unnecessarily get envious of girls that weren't raised abroad. The ones I know are just like me with almost the same insecurities so I hate it when guys have this stupid generalized view of women based on where they were raised.
It wasn't the accent.
He talked like a big know-it-all speaking like he knows everything about American raised desis with his strong accent so the accent seemed even more annoying. I want to believe it was much more than just the accent that was the issue. If the spark was there and the feeling of it being right even with certain flaws and without the generalized views on people or experiences he's never gone through, then the accent wouldn't have mattered I think.
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Would it have a chance if he held the same views without the accent?
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I lived 11 years in Pakistan yet I don't have any trace of an accent. I did 'grow up' in a pretty affluent town and I traveled quite a bit when I was little + I have extended family all over the world and then eventually moved, so I guess that's why I never spoke with a Pakistani accent, I'm surprised this guy still has a thick Punjabi accent, he probably only interacts with fobs, but there's nothing wrong with having an accent imo.
I think your social circle and the type of people you interact with on a regular basis influence accent more than actual location. I've met Pakistani people, who were born and raised in Britain, who speak as if they only recently immigrated and recent immigrants who speak perfect, accent free English as though they've always lived here.
That's probably a really small minority, most British-born Pakistanis have really thick British accents, I know this girl from Birmingham and I couldn't understand a word she spoke(that's how thick her accent was).
Most British-Pakistanis have been there since the 50s/60s, and many of them can't speak Urdu or even their native Pahari/Punjabi