Severe Accent

Lifestyle Relationships
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God, there is always something wrong with a rishta. Always. And it’s never something minor, it is always something huge…like …

50% of the time: I am in the country on a student/work visa, and something happened at school/work, and they’re about to deport me in the next month unless I get married.

25% of the time: I live in another country, and I want to commit visa scam to get in and marry you, and get a quick green card. Purty please??

10% of the time: I am 35 and I am broke and I don’t have a job.

10% of the time: I am divorced, and I don’t admit this, but it was totally my fault. Either I or my family will beat my wife.

5% of the time: you get these issues. Things like the accent.

This guy is a nice guy, has practically everything I am looking for, except for the small issue that he has been here since 16, from Punjab, yet he speaks like he’s from Kerala with that Harsh r’s and t’s because he works with south indians and he’s in IT so he doesn’t really talk to many real Americans.

:smack:

I mean, ok, you know maybe I could handle a Pakistani accent, something where you’re obviously from Karachi or Lahore, or some convent school or something where you have an accent but good grammar. Fine.

This is like dude says a sentence and out of every 2-3 sentence, I have to stop him and ask him WHAT ARE YOU SAYING???

And he reminds me of south indians I have worked with in the past, that I have PTSD from because those south indians.

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HIM: Y' NAWWWW???

ME: NO I DO NOT KNOW!

Is it legit to not go forward with a rishta because you know your friends will be laughing at you and your husband for the rest of your life, and because you will want to put on headphones every day?

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lol i don't know why freshies add 'na' after everything. What does that even mean?

probably you can tutor him pcg?

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Well... sounds like out of the other scenarios, an accent doesn't seem half as bad to me personally.

Plus, if you really wanted to help him with it, just engage in conversation and it will get better. You can't change the way he talks, but his pronunciation will get better if he's around you. It wouldn't be a big deal breaker for me, if he's a decent and respectable guy.

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PCG at this point you should put on your robes of monks and live in a monastery. Marriage might be too complicated for you. I don't think you need a guy, you need some sort of a demi-god. Try searching for a Narcissus (Actual greek god) in the Rishta section of the news paper.

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it’s short for “isn’t it?” hai na? = isn’t it? :smiley:

one word that pisses me off is “ONLY”. :smiley:

they use this word whic makes no sense at all. they would say…“i got the letter yesterday only”…:D…“i will come on Monday only” :D…“i like told you about that only” :hehe:

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Sab Kuch nahin milta zindagi mein.

^anyone ever told u this truth?

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Accents can be worked upon ! There are other things that matter more and those are checked, you should give it a try.

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kuchh log hote haiN jo 'sub kuchh' ke intizaar meN kuchh nahiiN paate...vo kahaavat hai na k:

"poorii ko jo bhaage vo aadhii se bhii jaave!" :(

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Yeah, it's legit. South Indian accent, what could be worse?

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Op, if you're that bothered by it to where you cannot overlook the trait, then move on. Simple. There's no zabardasti from either end and we all have our preferences and pet-peeves that others will find superficial. I think venting about it in a blog where you disable the comments function would have been better. By venting in a thread, you could not been unaware that things could get messy really quickly. :/

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naach na aavei, aangan terha..

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The question is, why did you even start a conversation with a paki, punjabi immigrant who works in IT with South Indians in the first place?

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He has been in the states longer than Pakistan

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We all know duration doesn't matter. Its the environment where one spends the formative years.Don't you agree?

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A prof once said that your manner of speech gets set around the age of nine. Not too sure about that. I knew someone grew up in the US and got married to a British guy, moved to the UK and came back after a couple months with a brand new accent. So maybe formative years don't lock your accent in place and even a short duration can have a strong impact. :/

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so everything other than the accent checks out ok ??

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True that, but those are exceptions IMO.

I was referring to general 'mentality' of a person setting in in early years and their mannerisms etc.

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I think your social circle and the type of people you interact with on a regular basis influence accent more than actual location. I've met Pakistani people, who were born and raised in Britain, who speak as if they only recently immigrated and recent immigrants who speak perfect, accent free English as though they've always lived here.

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Anyone who changes accent in a month or two is phony only, na?