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dont think that much if you have to settle
and most of times what we think is wrong is actually right
and some ppl are very wise but their every suggestion may not be right
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There's always a degree of settling or compromising. But then there's that degree where your heart is not into it all and you have to really push yourself to even accept it. I'm not in favor of that.
Speak for your own gender.
There aren't many men who feel they're settling for someone when they marry.
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Some people i spoke to think he is not worthy of me and that what the hell was i thinking .
How exactly is he unworthy according to them?
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^ because men are allowed to be picky. no one bats an eye if a guy or his family rejects a girl for being too tall too short too fair too dark having an older sister having an ugly sister having too many sisters having a divorced mother studyhing the wrong subject studying too much not studying enough working or not working etc etc etc.
A girl says she wants a man who's financially stable and attractive and everyone loses their mind and says she should settle and compromise because "it's a woman thing to compromise"
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^ because men are allowed to be picky. no one bats an eye if a guy or his family rejects a girl for being too tall too short too fair too dark having an older sister having an ugly sister having too many sisters having a divorced mother studyhing the wrong subject studying too much not studying enough working or not working etc etc etc. ** A girl says she wants a man who's financially stable and attractive and everyone loses their mind and says she should settle and compromise because "it's a woman thing to compromise"**
oh wow, you're saying this in life1 of all places.
child pls.
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^ because men are allowed to be picky. no one bats an eye if a guy or his family rejects a girl for being too tall too short too fair too dark having an older sister having an ugly sister having too many sisters having a divorced mother studyhing the wrong subject studying too much not studying enough working or not working etc etc etc.
A girl says she wants a man who's financially stable and attractive and everyone loses their mind and says she should settle and compromise because "it's a woman thing to compromise"
I have a few questions. As usual I don't expect any answers.
1) If men are allowed to be picky then how exactly are the women, who are ordinary in most ways, able to attract men / get married?
2) Why aren't their partners/ husbands talking about this great epidemic of men settling down and compromising. Where are those men?
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A girl says she wants a man who's financially stable and attractive and everyone loses their mind and says she should settle and compromise because "it's a woman thing to compromise"
I agree that compromise is not " a woman thing" and should not be viewed as such. Both sides must be willing to compromise and be realistic. However, I don't necessarily agree that men are more picky or that society does not allow women to be picky. Some women are just as picky, if not more so.
From what I gather from reading life1, the ideal man for many (many, not ALL, lest anyone accuse me of generalising) women must:
- Be wealthy/well off or have a good job
- Not have any sort of accent
- Not be too "traditional" but must be not be too "western" either
- Not visit his parents too often but must be okay with his wife to visiting her parents as often as she likes
- Must not spend a single quid on his family without asking his wife but has no right to ask his wife about her finances
- Not ask the woman to contribute to household but must consult her for every one of his financial decisions
Honestly, is this any better than the ridiculous demands some men have?
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#WomanHatingChauvinist](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=WomanHatingChauvinist)
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^Mate, I’m a woman. Woman hating chauvinist? Lol 
Secondly, I never stated that women cannot or should not have the aforementioned preferences. In all fairness though, just as we have our own preferences and standards, men also have theirs and we should not be bothered by the fact that they also have their own “preferences.”
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Their concerns are valid but i feel a strange pull towards this rishta and towards this family.
Be specific or this is pointless. Is he too short? Not attractive enough for you? He doesn't make enough money? You two are incompatible personality wise? Do you have different values?
If none of these apply and you only feel this way because someone made an offhand comment, then that's a different matter entirely.
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If there can be male feminists , so can there be a woman chauvinist. As they say, you have internalized the patriarchal beliefs.
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^ wth is a male feminist?
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Men who don't believe women are subhuman :)