Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!

[Reha]

Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!

@Ashy2010

Reha, daughters are helpless sometimes. I would be most happy to care for my mom and will consider it as my responsibility. But I can see daughters who are unable to do so because of the reason that they live far away. Such daughters can send money to their moms but it will be DIL who will need to make sure the MIL is taken care of (if MIL is living with her). Similarly, even if I want to be available to my mom more often, I will be available to my MIL more than I am to my own mom if I will be living with my MIL.

I just feel people in the old age can become unreasonable at times and we younger lot should have more tolerance. Its a give and take and both sides should work for the relationship.

What you’re saying is true.

My point is simply that women are not relieved of their religious responsibility towards their parents as a result of marriage. You will be held accountable even if you got married, moved to Africa and your SIL turned out to be a saint who did khidmat of your mother her entire life. That still does not relieve you of your responsibility. It gives your SIL a LOT of sawab…it gives your mother sukoon but that has nothing to do with you or your zimmidariyan.

You still have to take care of your parents Ashy…even if you’re a woman. Whether you choose to or not is entirely between you and Allah swt.