Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!

[Ashy2010]

Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!

@Reha

Ashy, the idea behind the thread is not that MIL should not be considered. Parents should always come first…BUT…you need to keep a balance between wife and mother. If you cannot do that, its best you not marry because it ruins someone else’s life. Being a good child doesnt mean you become a bad wife or husband.

One more thing I’d like to point out here is that your mother is not your brother’s responsibility only. She is also your mother and you are equally in charge of everything concerning her. She should not be treated as if she is your brother’s and his wife’s problem because you’re going to get married and nothing more is required of you.

Nowhere in Islam does religion distinguish between a son’s and a daughter’s responsibility towards their parents. Its the same all across the board. Before you implore your SIL to please be a good DIL and take care of your mother…you should remember that you are the child she gave birth to and you owe her your life.

Reha, daughters are helpless sometimes. I would be most happy to care for my mom and will consider it as my responsibility. But I can see daughters who are unable to do so because of the reason that they live far away. Such daughters can send money to their moms but it will be DIL who will need to make sure the MIL is taken care of (if MIL is living with her). Similarly, even if I want to be available to my mom more often, I will be available to my MIL more than I am to my own mom if I will be living with my MIL.

I just feel people in the old age can become unreasonable at times and we younger lot should have more tolerance. Its a give and take and both sides should work for the relationship.