Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!
Ashy, the idea behind the thread is not that MIL should not be considered. Parents should always come first…BUT…you need to keep a balance between wife and mother. If you cannot do that, its best you not marry because it ruins someone else’s life. Being a good child doesnt mean you become a bad wife or husband.
One more thing I’d like to point out here is that your mother is not your brother’s responsibility only. She is also your mother and you are equally in charge of everything concerning her. She should not be treated as if she is your brother’s and his wife’s problem because you’re going to get married and nothing more is required of you.
Nowhere in Islam does religion distinguish between a son’s and a daughter’s responsibility towards their parents. Its the same all across the board. Before you implore your SIL to please be a good DIL and take care of your mother…you should remember that you are the child she gave birth to and you owe her your life.
If this was your total contribution to this thread…you could have easily just not troubled yourself.
TLK…if he had gotten married…would that have made him a happy man? Judging from what you’re telling us, he is influenced by his mother heavily. Would he have been able to have a family if his mother was able to make him stay single and never marry?