Seriously...this whole supporting the parents business!

[Ashy2010]

Re: Seriously…this whole supporting the parents business!

@Si4e

@Ashy2010 ;

I have the same dilemma. My mom is a single parent and the thought of abandoning her scares me. In my line of work I am constantly visiting clients and one of our clients happens to be a nursing home/seniors residence. Every time I visit them I come back thinking I need to stop aging. The people living there just sit on their wheel chairs and stare into nothing but thin air all day long.

What I conclude is that its the husbands responsibility to financially support the parents and balance with mom and wife. But wives can make the lives of their husbands a bit easy if they are understanding of the situation of their husbands. After all, they also have parents and they also would like their brothers to support them. If we just put ourselves in others shoes, life would be a bit simple.

@cutefifa

First of all Ashy… dont think so negatively. If you read all the views here, noone has denied the parents rights here. They all are saying that if husband parents are well off and he is spending all his money on his parents and siblings luxuries then it is wrong. Otherwise they all said they OK if parents are dependent on son. Why you are thinking that SIL is some EVIL witch.

Remember if your brother leave your mother alone to please his wife .. he will has to be answerable in front of Allah.. because parents k haqooq bhi kuch hoty hain. You can not leave them alone.

But your case gives me another thought about my parents. As we are only three sister.. what will my parents do after my marriage. Thanks to Allah they are not dependent on others… my father is still working (May Allah gives them healthy life so that they won’t be dependent on others), but still i think about them specially when one of them will die (God Forbade)… how will the other one survive.

Yaar I said I talked about the worst case scenario. Allah na karay aisa kuch ho. But what if it happens. I again repeat, the husbands should be able to balance their responsibilities but wives should be supportive and understanding because they are the life partners.