serious issue of a family friend please reply genuine.

[Sehrysh]

Re: serious issue of a family friend please reply genuine.

@psyah

By the way this story was described - it sounds quite one sided … nadz123 what aren’t you telling us? Please explain what the man’s side say in his defense … And whether this case really has been proven or not is there just a lot of accusation being thrown around … The point I’m trying to make is that without you knowing what happened, without being there or seeing it, without knowing what role was being played by all people, how or why such people were left alone in the first place - I can’t imagine anyone I know the leave their daughters alone with male cousins … in a group yes, but never alone … Or how was an offense committed under their supervision - all of this is confusing … And some 12 year olds know what they are doing and many chase their desires just like any grown woman would do … I knew everything at the age of 12 and I’m a male … What he may have done with her he should get the fat end of the stick for - no doubt because he is much older and married as you say … But everyone is behaving as if he is already guilty before a trial - already the accusation has put a mark on his name - so let the result decide how he should be treated … This is what I have understood - that the trial has not happened yet … Before then any words said are baseless …

The truth is something that is only known by the alleged victim, the alleged abuser and Allah (swt). What happens if there’s no proof, but for this victim’s testimony and she’s telling the truth, but it can’t be proven in court? Does absence of proof or failure to get a conviction against this guy make her a liar and would Allah condemn her and her loved ones for saying out loud a truth that can’t be proven in court?

@nadz123

also her question to me was what shall i say to those people who ask me why i wrote that and why i would write that, in acusatory tones.

what should she say. i still havent given her an answer as i dont know myself.

Nadz, to reiterate what I said before, this young woman may not necessarily be wrong to twitter about her contempt for this man, but she can’t think that she can just do this and not be questioned about her words. People will always talk.

But, it’s her choice whether responds to these other people - she can remain silent and not tell people about what happened to her. But if the guy’s family mounts a smear campaign against her - what then? Is she going to let them drag her name through the mud or will she speak up then? She can say she wrote in support of this little girl, but that may not stop others from saying worse and the truth about what happened to her may come out. Can she handle talking about that or having that known? Her parents and husband don’t want it known - it’s not their choice, it’s her own. But she needs to be strong enough to deal with this sort of talk - and it’s never going to be easily done.