Sending your parents to a care home

[Reha]

Re: Sending your parents to a care home

@diwana

Some DIL know how to make their husbands do what they do not want to do.

We need time too.
Why not send them to old house?
Why not your sister take care of them. I know she is sick, but we have life too.
Its not that we are poor.
We can afford that right?
Oh! Your father makes noise at night. I could not sleep.
Your mother keeps calling me.
Bacchon Ko Dekhoon Ya Un Ko?

I have never heard these things out of any living person around me. This sounds like something right out of the movie Baghban…in which case…its a whole lotta Bollywood for you diwana sahab.

Koi is tarah ki batein nahin karta.

@NomiCA

obvioiulsy the guy is to blame… but kicking out parents happens only when his life is made hell… and he is forced to choose…

if somoene is unlucky enough to have been married to a woman like that… its not only about his lack of balls…

It is. If a man wants to buck up, he can. They’re HIS parents. Just like mine are MINE. I would never marry anyone who I felt couldn’t be there for me or mine if and when I needed them. If I don’t care for them, who will? If he doesn’t understand his responsibilities…why is he married?

The thing is…its not necessary to be unjust to one to be just to another. I despise this thinking that in order to be good to my wife, I have to be unfair to my mother or vice versa. Why? Who says?

@chacha_Ghalib

what about people who want to live in a separate house from their parents? when parents get old and are living alone, is it any better than being in an old people’s home?

Living away from home if parents are capable and independent isn’t wrong.

Actually, I think its good for them to be independent as long as possible. I want my parents to do anything and everything they wish on their own. If they need me…I am there. There’s nothing wrong with that.