No idea if there has been a thread on this topic before, but would you ever send your parents to a care home simply because they were too much of a burden? This is getting more and more common amongst people in pak nowadays, seen loadsss of programmes on tv about how parents are simply dumped on the side of the road when their old and frail.
Why is it? Is it because of lack of respect, embarrassment, too much of a burden.. ? hmmmm.. .
I don't think its fair to shun people for putting their parents into a nursing home. You think of people who are old as people who can talk and know what they want can eat the food that you eat etc right? But a lot of people who get old usually get Alzheimer's, cancers and other illness's that family members aren't qualified to take care of.
I believe that if you love the person you would want them to have the best care they deserve. Do you understand how much mental torture you would go through if one of your parents had Alzheimer's? they slowly forget who you are and the person who you love can't even recognize you!
Does putting them in a nursing home mean that you'll never see them again? No, it means that you know that they will be cared for properly and that you can visit them anytime you want.
I wouldn't want to live with my family if I'm old and they still have children living in their house. It would be impossible to take full care of me and I would rather be in an environment where there won't be much noise or stress.
And you think men are innocent kakay who will go and discard their parents off as soon as their wives order? Who is to be blamed then?
no....they are stupid men........they should kick out their wife if she demands that........
but not all are strong enough to be fair...when forced to choose between their parents (who have lived their life) and saving their own home and family and kids.........
and the blame is on DIL by the same logic by which the blame is put on MIL in matters.
no....they are stupid men........they should kick out their wife if she demands that........
but not all are strong enough to be fair...when forced to choose between their parents (who have lived their life) and saving their own home and family and kids.........
and the blame is on DIL by the same logic by which the blame is put on MIL in matters.
I agree to most of what you said but it doesn't have to be either or. A man has to be able to strike the balance between his kids and wife and parents. That is his responsibility but women who expect a man to leave his parents is absurd.
parents are children's responsibility...period! if you claim to be responsible, you'll take care of your parents, especially when they reach old age and/or infirm. Allah will question you as to how you treated your parents. it's NOT a choice, it's ordained by Allah, the Almighty...so, fear Allah!
Simple reason being in my fammily as has been tradition the elders are respected and valued active members, they help take care of the kids and ussually the kids grow up to take care of them.
Everyone helps out everyone else as should be the case in a big fammily and when disputes take place the heads immediately adress the issues there and then.
Care homes???
What home can be better than the one you own???
Back home there was never such a thing as care homes as far as I know... and while I can be modern with some things this is something I'd rather stick with the old school method.
these are odd cases, its always hard to comment on odd cases but judging by interviewers reaction (his sense of norms) the pakistani nation should should be ok for the forseable future
If a guy cannot balance his parents and wife...he is stupid and shouldn't be married.
People make unreasonable demands all the time in almost any relationship. Does that mean we give in? Does that mean we kick our wives or parents to the curb? No.
It means you grow a pair and realize BOTH parties have their place and neither should trespass on the other's rights.
If a guy cannot balance his parents and wife...he is stupid and shouldn't be married.
People make unreasonable demands all the time in almost any relationship. Does that mean we give in? Does that mean we kick our wives or parents to the curb? No.
It means you grow a pair and realize BOTH parties have their place and neither should trespass on the other's rights.
I agree Reha, but the responsibility is also on the woman. What kind of woman/mother is she to ask her husband to leave his parents. I think these things should be made clear before someone gets into the relationship.
I agree Reha, but the responsibility is also on the woman. What kind of woman/mother is she to ask her husband to leave his parents. I think these things should be made clear before someone gets into the relationship.
True. She is despicable for turning his parents into a nursing home.
What I believe in almost every aspect of life is that you will never be able to control what the other person does or says. You simply cannot.
The only thing you can do is reflect over your own actions. How can the main character here...the guy or girl whose parents are being turned into burdens...handle this?
Some DIL know how to make their husbands do what they do not want to do.
We need time too.
Why not send them to old house?
Why not your sister take care of them. I know she is sick, but we have life too.
Its not that we are poor.
We can afford that right?
Oh! Your father makes noise at night. I could not sleep.
Your mother keeps calling me.
Bacchon Ko Dekhoon Ya Un Ko?
*only one ..........DIL *;)
Or a Son-In-Law. What of those families where there are no sons and the SIL refuses to have his wife's parents live with them. And I have seen just such a family....
i won't ever in my most snootiest dreams do that to my parents. they've always been there for me even during the most traumatizing time in me life so i will be taking care of my parents in their old age. they are the best parents a gal could have, i mean if a guy is snooty enough not to understand that then....sorry buddy on this particular matter I shall gladly disagree with any guy that doesn't understand my pov....don't need an arrogant man like that....bubye
