no matter how you lay out things, you seem SELFISH here....its all about you, you, you and your bf. BD come and GO every year....shadi is once in a life time event (ok mosst of the time) :)
agreed!!
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
I am sorry to say, OP position is not right from what is presented. Maybe there is something more there.
And what kind of 'friend' will write comment of 'selfish, stupid cow' for other 'friend'???? That is not right or polite either.
Well, your friend really is stupid, for having you as a friend.
well said.
I never got a chance to reply to anything in my thread. But thanks for the replies. May i just add that she hasnt been the perfect friend herself. She herself has ranted about her boyfriend for cheating on her. Shes caused grief between me and my bf. But the great friend that I am i have forgiven her. Now i have said i will attend her mehndi/wedding. Not to the dolki, Im sorry but i dont live around the corner. I would have to train it too. Also i would have to book 3 weeks off because what am i meant to do go down every week? it would cost me a bomb. Its not on weekends its on week days. The whole my boyfriend isnt 4 bla bla, Well its not about OH hes a big boy now im sure he can handle it, For people that DO have boyfriends im sure you understand. For people that dont......... well when you do get someone you care about you will.
I really dont see how i am the selfish one because oh im sorry i cant go down to her place for a 3 hour drive on my boyfriend birthday then frm hers go to his which will take 2 hours. Then another 2 hours to go home. And then go work. Yes i'll do that shall i. Gosh maybe i just wrote it on the wrong forum. I dont see the big deal about dolkis. And btw i could'nt care less who attended my wedding etc or not. Aslong as i have my hubby, Erm who are they? Also do the bride n groom even care that your there? ALSO if i wrote a list about what this girl has done you wouldnt be saying shes the selfish one. Nevermind tho! Just had to get my opinion across!!!
wow...!!
that's not fair bringing up her past and saying her b/f used to cheat on her. what was the need to bring all that up? they have obviously worked things out, are content and are getting married.
so what if it costs money to go to her wedding? who travels for free to a wedding?! are you that cheap as a friend that you wouldn't go just because of a train ticket? book 2-3 weeks in advance to get cheaper rail tickets!
i would think your friend's wedding celebrations are more important to you than your boyfriend's birthday! your boyfriend's bday celebrations come yearly...getting married for most is once in a life time thing. do you and your boyfriend plan to celebrate all day or something? and what exactly have you both planned which is so worth missing your friend's dolki?
why can't you compromise with your friend instead of making things so much harder for her. celebrate your boyfriend's birthday in the afternoon and celebrate her dolki at night. this is the time when she needs your support or does it bother you that she is getting married and you can't share in her happiness?
and don't expect her to arrange her wedding plans around you! that can't be done. don't be jealous for her happiness - be happy for her.
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
fast forward 6 months when MB gets married:
"omg i can't believe she said she can't make it to my wedding because she's pregnant and the doctor's put her on bed rest! it's MY DAY! I cam to her stupid wedding because IM such an AMAZING friend but she can't do it to me?! stupid pregnant fat cow. who cares if i live 4 hours away from her now. it's MY big DAY not hers!"
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^ ha ha ha ha! brilliant!
fast forward 6 months when MB gets married:
"omg i can't believe she said she can't make it to my wedding because she's pregnant and the doctor's put her on bed rest! it's MY DAY! I cam to her stupid wedding because IM such an AMAZING friend but she can't do it to me?! stupid pregnant fat cow. who cares if i live 4 hours away from her now. it's MY big DAY not hers!"
LMAO!
I know that I've made a mountain out of small issues that were important to me.......only to realize later that I wasn't thinking thoroughly. Sometimes you're stressed about various issues...and that frustration carries over to other situations....and prevents you from looking at things clearly and calmly. You look at it from an annoyed and emotional stance, which is not the most reasonable. And with women....we've all been there.....even our hormones can prevent us from thinking straight and make us snippy. Being too harsh and sarcastic might get the point across.....but could also be damaging.
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BOYFRIEND!! LOL oh kayyyyy!
Gosh if she is really your 'best' friend then I don't even think this thought would come into your head, coz a best friend is like a sister, a soul mate a companion and your there for them in happy times as well as sad and if you really place her as a best friend in your life then there shouldn't even be any question whether you go, love is about compromise and sacrifice - if you really have sincere love for your best friend then you wouldn't be thinking like you are so maybe you need to rethink where she should be placed in your life.
Personally if my best friend had her dholki on my Husband's birthday
(bear in mind a husband is way up there compared to 'just' a boyfriend, yeah yeah I sound harsh but in my eyes a boyfriend is nothing sorry) My husband loves me that much he would say, your being so stupid GO to your friend's dholki - she was there way before I was and she has certain rights upon you. If your so called boyfriend loves you that much he would encourage you to go as well.
As a best friend if your not loyal and happy in her happiness NO WAY IN HELL are you her best friend.
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
^ well said!
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
LMAO i cant read all these comments... But let me get somethings straight.
My friend has TOLD me she said in a year me and him will get DIVORCED because of what hes like but i wanna marry him because i dont want any other girl too. Once i marry him first its fine. Now does that sound LEGIT? the guy is a total idiot! She is beautiful she can do better. Shes had better rishtas. ALSO when i said stupid cow of a friend dont worry we cuss each other all the time, Its our love lol. Umm what else YES i said i will attend the wedding and mehndi. Cant go to the walima, she said fine to that. The dolki i said i cant go to because its my bfs bday. I asked my bf does he wanna go he said no. He cant stand my friend for what she did.
She gave out my number to a few guys, Telling them i was up for 'it' She would bad mouth my bf. But i realised it was total jealousy as he gave me the world and the stars. Btw i made a thread about her when i first came on here. About how she has a bf with the same name as my bf and also uses the same nickname i give him. And i assureeeeee you NO ONE has the same nickname than him so dnt say its probly common. I was gonna get married to my bf THIS year but she went and RUSHED hers and booked it all. I really didnt wanna be pitiful and do that aswell. So i told my bf to wait till next year or so. We did. As soon as she found out we aint getting married she basically cried down the fone to me for how stupid she is. She is a idiot but i do love her. I have given her so many chances i've been a bloody AMAZING friend. And its not about being 'cheap' Also where the hell am i gonna stay?! i dont feel comfortable staying in other peoples houses. Thats just me.
Anyway i forgave her, and when we spoke it was a light hearted convo i said im sorry i cant attend the dolki. Now dolki is not the wedding, she doesnt want me there because im a close friend or what not. IMO i dont see the big deal. but i guess your all gonna attack me for that now.
Shes making me pick and choose again, Shes always has put me in this situation.
Anyways i suppose im the stupid one for holding on to a friend like that.
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
How can you love someone you seem to hate?
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
Darling. The love turned to hate. And im sure you would too if you knew the things she did.
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
Why exactly are people saying im missing her wedding? Sorry since when did DOLKI mean wedding?
Since when did Prophet Mohammed (p.b.u.h) say have a dolki? Im sure it was just nikkah.
Oh silly me.
(Yes dont slate me about the bf. Hes more of a hubby.)
One reason why i am on your side:rotato:
Seriously Mixed beauty..what are u on...ur so blinded in ur love that all u can think abt is me and my bf..me and my bf..
life doesnt begin and end on bfs u know....how old r u?? seriously??
I dated my hubby for nearly 9 years..but never did I think that OMG its his birthday, I cant attend a party on that day or anything :S
It was his first birthday after our wedding, so the first one together...and it was my cousins wedding that day..guess what? Hubby cudnt care less!!! We attended the wedding happily............
Whatever ur friend did...y does it matter now..if shes ur friend now then u shud treat her how u r supposed 2 treat friends...not like an enemy?!
seriously, thank god ur not my friend...
the way ur talking u sound like one of those 16-18 year old immature girls who has no take on life....just tinks shes gnna get married and tings r gnna be all colourful (p.s: Im not calling u this-Im saying u sound like one!) ....boyfriends may come and go...friends dont...u probs will remember that 10 years down the line..
oh and do urself a favour...and a favour to ur friend...dnt attend her wedding...seriously!!
Why exactly are people saying im missing her wedding? Sorry since when did DOLKI mean wedding? Since when did Prophet Mohammed (p.b.u.h) say have a dolki? Im sure it was just nikkah. Oh silly me.
(Yes dont slate me about the bf. Hes more of a hubby.)
dont bring Islam into it....having a BF aint really islamic ?!
Nuffin wrong with the fact that u have one...but why bring islam into it :S
Seriously Mixed beauty..what are u on...ur so blinded in ur love that all u can think abt is me and my bf..me and my bf..
How do people fail to see its my 'bf's birthday vs my friend's dholki'.
How do people fail to see its my 'bf's birthday vs my friend's dholki'.
lol
pls tell me ur being sarcy!!
I wud tink the bf wud have some akal to give some akal to Mixed Beauty....and explain to her why his birthday is not the 'presidents bday'....
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ‘‘friend’’ WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!
Aww someone played the religion card? 