Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
Having a boyfriend ..is this even ISLAMICALLY allowed :p .so go to her wedding ..oh hell ... is dholki a rasam of hindus even allowed ISLAMICALLY .. errm so dunt go .. do go to her nikah n walima ..
ps. its her right to choose what ever dates she wants cos end of the day its her big day n all ..and mayb your just being so possessive of your bf (not allowed) that it seems like shes takin it out on your bf.. but hav u thought that ..why is the bfs birthday that dayy ..:p
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ‘‘friend’’ WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!
ERRRRRRRM coz everyone here is SO obbsessed with a bloody dolki its not real. I cant BELIEVE you lot are saying the DOLKI is more important.
Well you know what maybe its just me and my family. We dont get excited about a wedding or anything because theres more to life than a dolki.
Also she knows this marriage isnt gonna be all colourful. She used to go to her inlaws before they even thought abt getting married. And has had arguments with the inlaws ALREADY!!! Im sorry but what part of she said shes gonna get divorced after a year is not alarming? EVEN her sister and brother in laws said i can put money on it you will get divorced. But yes i should drop everything to go to a DOLKI. Yes dolki not wedding, But the dolki.
If i wanna bring islam into it i will. And tell me where it says you MUST have a dolki?
I wont be having one, I think its pathetic. If i wanna go out with my close friends i will. Why would i wanna invite the 5,000 to a dolki.
Oh and look what i found ON THIS WEBSITE-:
Isn’t this dholki, baaraat and gaana bajaaanaa stuff un-islamic? Proof:
According to Mufti Ibrahim Desai, these are all Hindu customs that deviate from Islam. He states:
These customs have no basis in Islam, hence, they must be abandoned. There is no such thing as ‘Baraat’ in Islam. The Nikah should be plain and simple. (Baaraat, gaana bajaanaa etc.)
This is an innovation which must be shunned. (Sehra)
I for one do not find dolkis/mehndis/weddings/walimas exciting at all. I will not be screaming with excitment when i see a guy dancing… Hence why i would rather skip the dolki, For something more exciting=My amazing boyfriend.
I dont think the bf or even mixed beauty thought the birthday is president’s birthday. We dont bother about presidents’ birthdays, do we? You are just putting arguments for the sake of it. You see, you set you priorities. You get that feeling from within to celebrate your loved one’s birthday. Its more interpersonal specially in this case and your absense will be felt. Whats dholki on the other hand? Just sit there, sing, clap? Even if a pair of hands is missing, it isnt that big a deal. NO?
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
MixedBeauty - dholki being islamically allowed or not is not the point here, just the fact that you pulled out your beard and cap to help justify your stance is hilarious.
Edit: It reminded me of a friend who, holding a lager in his hand, leaned in and asked me if the meat was zabiah.
MixedBeauty - dholki being islamically allowed or not is not the point here, j*ust the fact that you pulled out your beard and cap to help justify your stance is hilarious.*
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
LMAOO!!!!!!!! are you SERIOUS?! i aint justifying ANYTHING. I dont give a crap WHOS dolki it is! I never even went to my own AUNTYS. Hell i didnt even go to her WEDDING.
Weddings are LONG! I hate them. I cant stand them, I dont see the big deal. Now for me to sit at a dolki dance to music i've danced to a million times, But infront of old auntys n uncles. UMM no thank you. Going to these places freak me out, Asking me questions thats non of their business.
Anyways its done now. I've told my friend i am not going. Like it or lump it. I've planned my bfs bday for a month now and its his day. Not hers. Its a dolki for Goodness sake.
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ‘‘friend’’ WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!
If you don’t give a crap and you hate weddings so much that you can’t stand them, then why are you twisting and turning sugar? Instead of creating this whole drama you could have just shrugged it off when she told you it was her dholki/wedding/whatever. Okay I will give you credit for some good entertainment :k:
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
ok jaanwar, Its nice to know your only source of entertainment is from GS. good luck with your life.
and TabuB- its cheap of you to keep saying bechari friend oh this n that. Shes a big girl darling theres nothing bechari about her. More like chalaak. And oopppsss did i hit a nerve?
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
Mixed beauty....seriously...if u cant hear what ppl have 2 say then dont post next time....we r telling u what we see....if u dont like it...then do as u wish neways...no1 here is personally attacking u...we dont even know u...we r telling u what we tink of the situation..
if i had a friend who wrote this sort of stuff abt me on gupshup..lets just say I wouldnt be ecstatic that shes my friend..thats all im saying..
Take it with ur head high...or then dont create posts if u cant listen to other ppl telling u what they tink of the situation...
I did not personally attack u in anyway...and neither is it my stance to do so...i can if i want to, but theres no need for that!
Re: SELFISH stupid cow of a ''friend'' WHAT the HELL is the point of a DOLKI!!!!
TabuB-: everything everyone has said here hasnt botherd me in the slightest, Infact gave me some giggles. Like i said before i shouldnt of posted I mean i have yet to come across a pakistani that doesnt like dolkis etc . I for one dont see a need for them, Thats why i was shocked when my friend made me pick n choose. Over a dolki. IMO a dolki has nothing to do with the nikkah. Now to make me pick between giving my bf a good birthday, (hence this is the only birthday i've spent with him i couldnt spend his last one with him due to personal reasons) I really set my heart on it, as i've been planning for ages. Now why am i gonna cancel those plans for someone that quite frankly doesnt give me respect, and has cancelled things on ME for her (then bf).
Anyways if she doesnt wanna be my friend for not attending her dolki. Its no skin off my nose. Thats up to her. And thats final really.
Again if someone can actually tell me why exactly people have dolkis, and why i've never seen it anywhere in islam. Do tell me is it cultural or religion?
TabuB-: everything everyone has said here hasnt botherd me in the slightest, Infact gave me some giggles. Like i said before i shouldnt of posted I mean i have yet to come across a pakistani that doesnt like dolkis etc . I for one dont see a need for them, Thats why i was shocked when my friend made me pick n choose. Over a dolki. IMO a dolki has nothing to do with the nikkah. Now to make me pick between giving my bf a good birthday, (hence this is the only birthday i've spent with him i couldnt spend his last one with him due to personal reasons) I really set my heart on it, as i've been planning for ages. Now why am i gonna cancel those plans for someone that quite frankly doesnt give me respect, and has cancelled things on ME for her (then bf).
Anyways if she doesnt wanna be my friend for not attending her dolki. Its no skin off my nose. Thats up to her. And thats final really.
Again if someone can actually tell me why exactly people have dolkis, and why i've never seen it anywhere in islam. Do tell me is it cultural or religion?
see thats fair enuff....its ur life..u do what u want...now thats a mature post...attacking me wasnt!! lol...
Look, do as u wish...as u r already neways lol..
i got work 2 do now, so logging out..all the best!
TabuB-: everything everyone has said here hasnt botherd me in the slightest, Infact gave me some giggles. Like i said before i shouldnt of posted I mean i have yet to come across a pakistani that doesnt like dolkis etc . I for one dont see a need for them, Thats why i was shocked when my friend made me pick n choose. Over a dolki. IMO a dolki has nothing to do with the nikkah. Now to make me pick between giving my bf a good birthday, (hence this is the only birthday i've spent with him i couldnt spend his last one with him due to personal reasons) I really set my heart on it, as i've been planning for ages. Now why am i gonna cancel those plans for someone that quite frankly doesnt give me respect, and has cancelled things on ME for her (then bf).
Anyways if she doesnt wanna be my friend for not attending her dolki. Its no skin off my nose. Thats up to her. And thats final really.
Again if someone can actually tell me why exactly people have dolkis, and why i've never seen it anywhere in islam. Do tell me is it cultural or religion?
I guess u didnt read my post ..that i too as a pakistani ..is against dolki not just cos islam says so ..its cos theres no bloody point to it ..like u said ..its got nothing to do with the nikah or the walima..its just a stupid hindi cultural thing that got carried into pakis when pak was made ..and pakis think its part of the wedding ..hell no it aint ..part of islam either...BUT ..if your trying to justify dolki npt being part of islam ..which u did rightly and no one can disagree ..can you now justify having a bf in islam or is it a cultural thing :p ..
end of the day .. after what 3 4 pages .. there isnt a point of this thread ..simple as that...
I guess u didnt read my post ..that i too as a pakistani ..is against dolki not just cos islam says so ..its cos theres no bloody point to it ..like u said ..its got nothing to do with the nikah or the walima..its just a stupid hindi cultural thing that got carried into pakis when pak was made ..and pakis think its part of the wedding ..hell no it aint ..part of islam either...BUT ..if your trying to justify dolki npt being part of islam ..which u did rightly and no one can disagree ..can you now justify having a bf in islam or is it a cultural thing :p ..
end of the day .. after what 3 4 pages .. there isnt a point of this thread ..simple as that...
LoL, Thanks. Ok Having a bf in islam is not allowed. However if we could have a nikkah tomorrow we would. I've said countless times i'm not botherd about the big wedding the 'perfect' dress etc. A simple nikkah with close family is perfect. We only see each other once a week. Twice if were lucky. But were both totally 'halaal' So dont worry molvi saab. I have a conscious. Allah is watching me, And i wouldnt wanna dissapoint my Dad by breaking his trust. :)
We dont bother about presidents’ birthdays, do we? You are just putting arguments for the sake of it. You see, you set you priorities. You get that feeling from within to celebrate your loved one’s birthday. Its more interpersonal specially in this case and your absense will be felt. Whats dholki on the other hand? Just sit there, sing, clap? Even if a pair of hands is missing, it isnt that big a deal. NO?
Instead of creating this whole drama you could have just shrugged it off when she told you it was her dholki/wedding/whatever. Okay I will give you credit for some good entertainment :k: