FRIENDS??? Why are you even calling them that? Friendship is supposed to be a mutual relationship of compromise, give and take. If it’s a one-sided affair, it’s hardly a friendship. And this scenario seems more like a business relationships, where you’re the one going out on limb to fulfill their requests while they don’t much care about you. You might as well get paid for it…but you’re not even getting that.
I always get the impression from your posts that you’re a strong and independent woman, PCG. It’s kind of tough for me to picture you being a “wing woman” or being bossed around by this girl, let alone putting up with her crap. “Friends” are usually people that associate with often enough, and it they’re THAT bad, then they’re robbing you of peace of mind in your life. And needless to say, life is too short for that. It’s not healthy (physically or mentally).
I’ve ditched so-called “friends” for their frequently tactless behavior and it’s no big deal. Once I did, I felt soooo much peace, that it made me realize (afterward) how stressed I had been when I was in their company. Made me realize how much peace I was missing. In my opinion praise should be sincere, or it risks sounding fake. You wouldn’t want fake praise either. Compliment people when you truly feel like it. That reflects honesty to urself n others and confidence. Kissing-up (for whatever reason) is not attractive and is not viewed thus by the one on the receiving end either.
Try breaking into a different social circle, maybe one that has more in common with you. Or attend events that are more up your alley and where you are more likely to find people similar to you. Instead of opening the conversation with a compliment, ask them a question (or make a comment) about the event.** “So, what do you think of …?” **And take it from there. Ask them questions about other issues (besides fashion and boys). Their responses might give you an idea of whether or not that person would be compatible with you.