Would you go that route?
Your ex-wife, fiance, husband, boyfriend, etc…someone you were in love with and things just didnt work. Now you’ve got a lot of anger as well as questions as to why.
Rather than address them…would you seek revenge if you were the wronged party in the relationship?
Lets say he/she hurt you…is revenge ever a good idea?
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I believe letting go & moving on would be better.You live your life and let him live his,and he may eventually end up paying for it as what goes around comes around.
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silence should be the best revenge. also, why make a spectacle of such things. the sooner we can distance ourselves from bad experiences, the better for us & our future ... unless of course, they are planning to harm you further down the road, or looking for an excuse to do so. then you hit them hard.
when my ex left, she didn't hear a thing from me. not a single word. not a single phone call. not a single text message. no protest. no complaints. no words of regret. no message via a messenger.
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I wouldn’t, simply because I wouldn’t want to allow the other person to think he was totally amazing and that I can’t live without him, as that would just further massage the ego. I would put my chin up and move on with my life and show him he was never needed. 
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say no to revenge move on with ur life and include whoever wronged you in your dua'as (not bad-dua'as)
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I guess there would be unchanneled anger, and there are clear examples of men on tv (news) when things go wrong in a relationship, some of them asain.
I agree with everyones sentiments above, what goes around comes around. You hurt someone who loves you than its bound to come back and bite you in the a** one day ;)
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Spoken like a true Princess
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Damn Straight I would. And I would do it bollywood filmy style too!!!
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Damn Straight I would. And I would do it bollywood filmy style too!!!
So basically you'll sing cheesy songs for them in Switzerland, UK or the US until they give in and take you back?
There is no revenge in Bollywood man! Don't you know?!
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So basically you'll sing cheesy songs for them in Switzerland, UK or the US until they give in and take you back?
There is no revenge in Bollywood man! Don't you know?!
Exactly! Lol!
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If a person has left us for any reason, why should we spend our time and energy on him even for taking revenge? Why should we even think about him? Dafa karo aur Mitti paao :D
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So basically you'll sing cheesy songs for them in Switzerland, UK or the US until they give in and take you back?
There is no revenge in Bollywood man! Don't you know?!
Or save their life in some sort of crazy situation, that will work too, then they wall fall back into your arms and be forever grateful, that also happens in BW. lol. Classic.
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I dont think I can go that route. No matter how angry am I or wronged do I feel. and I get surprised how easily some people do that.
But it doesnt mean I have never wronged anyone. be it an ex or any family member.
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My EXs are EX for a reason and they dont deserve my attention anymore.......not even in the sense of revenge because even that means I m thinking about them....
Secondly, I am basically a peace loving man. I dont believe on taking revenge.
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I think initially I might want revenge (depending on what they did), but I don't think I would do it. I think it's better to move on. Seeking revenge can even be perceived as you stil wanting to spend time/energy on them...and therefore seen as you still caring about them on some level. But if one does want to take revenge....I think something as simple as indifference can work well, it's maddening, lol.
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No i wouldn't take any revenge. In contrary, i do respect her because she went with what she strongly believed. And we were not good match.
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Would you go that route?
Your ex-wife, fiance, husband, boyfriend, etc...someone you were in love with and things just didnt work. Now you've got a lot of anger as well as questions as to why.
Rather than address them...would you seek revenge if you were the wronged party in the relationship?
Lets say he/she hurt you...is revenge ever a good idea?
I've heard that Islam allows one to seek revenge...although forgiveness is better. If you were to take revenge....(and I can understand the temptation)....it would indicate that your ex is still on your mind. Also, it can be argued that seeking reveveng would not make you much different from your ex....and I doubt that it would make them willing to answer any of your questions.
Even if you didn't seek revenge...and just wanted to confront them about why they hurt you.....there's the chance that they may not think they've made any mistakes, may have too much pride to apologize or might not think they're guilty, (it takes courage to admit your wrongs and to apologize), and what guarantee is there that they would even give you an honest response? What I'm trying to say is that....if you're able to get some mental closure by talking to your ex.....then more power to you. But, sometimes you can't get closure from talking to the person who has wronged you.......and it is up to you to provide yourself with closure and peace of mind....by learning from that experience and trying to move on. Takes a lot of inner strength to do so.....it's easier said than done.
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I am a kind of person who even dreads confrontation. So I wouldn't go that route. I'd rather move on and not spend anymore energy on the person.
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parting ways is enough, any thing more than that will just be a wastage of time.