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Thinking about an ex like that means he/she is not much of an ex for you and your mind is still somehow stuck with them.
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:nono: No revenge!
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I would LOVE to take revenge! Well not exactly. I liked this guy for about 3 yrs, we were close, he always led me on, and I guess we were in an open relationship type thing. Stuff happened between us, and well I wish I could hate him, and take revenge. But what would I do? I can't do anything. and besides that, why would i want to hurt a person I once had feelings for? Trust me, when you find someone else worth caring for, just even the thought of taking 'revenge' from this ex will make you laugh and you're going to think to yourself "what in the flipperin world was i thinkin?" lol.
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Yes but what are healthy ways for people to deal with that anger then?
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Yes but what are healthy ways for people to deal with that anger then?
Take a break from relationships and focus on themselves. Occupy their time with positive company and activities. Purse their goals.....do/try the things that they've always wanted to but never got around to doing. Helping others....volunteer work...can be therapeutic.
Or and I don't know how much good this will do........they can calm down and send their ex an email about how their actions made them feel....it need not be be a bitter email....to get things off their chest. But they have to understand that they might not get a response from their ex.....or they might receive a resonse that they don't like.....and they have to be open to these possibilities, keep their expectations low, and be able to move on whatever the outcome.
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Would you go that route?
Your ex-wife, fiance, husband, boyfriend, etc...someone you were in love with and things just didnt work. Now you've got a lot of anger as well as questions as to why.
Rather than address them...would you seek revenge if you were the wronged party in the relationship? ** Lets say he/she hurt you...is revenge ever a good idea?**
I think ALLAH per chor dena chahieye.
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so what about this situation: a guy completely led on a girl, and her parents, and even her grandparents, and then left her because his parents said no. This went on for about two years. It was terrible, to say the least...And then there were insults involved (one sided) in which the girl's parents/ grandparents were targeted from the guy's side. The girl's father knows he can rattle the guy's career, and insists on revenge after such a spectacle in front of the whole world. But the girl insists they must try to hush it up, to save her from further embarrassment. Needless to say, it has wrecked havoc on the girl's grandparent's health. The guy has only used the girl's silence to his advantage and is spreading the news, telling everyone what a good son he has been and how he has surely earned heaven by breaking his promises to the girl+her parents+ her grandparents and taking his parent's side. I want to know what to do in such a situation, and what does Islam say about such a situation. Isn't breaking of such a promise punishable in Islam?
Forget lectures about moving on and stuff, and pls just tell me about this situation. This is not just a boy- girl scenario...there were too many people involved, and too many people who were led on...wedding preps were being made, when suddenly, his parents decided to say they don't want this to go on. Because they 'dont feel like it'.
Re: Seeking revenge from an ex...
so what about this situation: a guy completely led on a girl, and her parents, and even her grandparents, and then left her because his parents said no. This went on for about two years. It was terrible, to say the least...And then there were insults involved (one sided) in which the girl's parents/ grandparents were targeted from the guy's side. The girl's father knows he can rattle the guy's career, and insists on revenge after such a spectacle in front of the whole world. But the girl insists they must try to hush it up, to save her from further embarrassment. Needless to say, it has wrecked havoc on the girl's grandparent's health. The guy has only used the girl's silence to his advantage and is spreading the news, telling everyone what a good son he has been and how he has surely earned heaven by breaking his promises to the girl+her parents+ her grandparents and taking his parent's side. I want to know what to do in such a situation, and what does Islam say about such a situation. Isn't breaking of such a promise punishable in Islam? Forget lectures about moving on and stuff, and pls just tell me about this situation. This is not just a boy- girl scenario...there were too many people involved, and too many people who were led on...wedding preps were being made, when suddenly, his parents decided to say they don't want this to go on. Because they 'dont feel like it'.
If everyone knows that the relationship didn't go ahead because his parents didn't feel like it, then that's a pure reflection on them, and not the girl. If this is the case, then there is no reason why anyone should seek revenge because no sane parent would want to give their daughter to such a spineless little boy. And their punishment is with Allah. Having said that, it is human nature to seek revenge, but what satisfaction would anyone truly get out of that? Her family will be happy for a week, month, whatever, but the pain of the broken engagement will always be there. Then again, when it comes to daughters it does seem like a whole different ball game and I'm pretty sure most parents would want to seek revenge.