Reha
January 13, 2011, 2:18pm
35
Re: Seeking permission…
As stated by various people here marriage is about commitment, respect and equality. In that regard wouldn’t it make sense to respect your spouse in his desire to smoke or drink? Of course the baseline assumption is that both activities do not lead to any form of abuse and are conducted without losing ones senses.
**I dont know any man that asks his wife before he has a drink. Drinking is considered morally incorrect in our faith so asking something like that is kinda…lame. Most men that drink do actually drink regardless of their wives’ opnions. As far as smoking is concerned…well…to be quite honest…I would never force my opinion on anyone BUT I would have a problem overcoming my extreme dislike of the smell. Frankly, I find it disgusting so intimacy with a smoker would be difficult.
**You’re oonfusing asking and consulting. If you have a family, you talk to your spouse before disappearing for a week. If you have a wife, you take some vacations with her first so doesnt feel neglected and then going with your boys is easier. You dont come home to your boys every night so putting them before her is setting yourself up. **