Re: Seeking permission…
this statement **“Honey…you know the guys…well they want to go to Vegas…its really for a business trip” **looks like as if the husband is afraid of his wife and thinks the wife will tell him off if he goes out with his friends for fun. i think it should be like this for example if a husband (or even wife) wants to buy a new car then he should tell her saying “i am planning to buy a new car what do you think” rather than saying “oh can i buy a new car” such things should have involvement of both coz what if the other person has some other plans with that money.
if i want to buy something i will surely not seek my spouse’s permission rather i will discuss and see what my spouse has to say. coz maybe my spouse knows about a better deal.
(drinking and smoking are different issues. one should know his/her limits…its not about permission in any way. drinking is forbidden so the question of permission deosnot arise in both and wife and husband’s case-my point of view here is islamic…cant say anything about non-islamic ppl)