***So for all those of you who are married , do you keep things from your partners ?
I’m not talking about important need to know information but little things which you know will either end up in an arguement or information that really doesn’t pertain to your partner as such…do you “avoid” mentioning stuff just to keep the peace ?
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ofcourse
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I do
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no secrets ..and if there are secrets then it aint a marriage ..
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of course! Why the unnecessary argument!
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There was a thread a little while ago where the wife seemed to take the same approach to truth-telling and lying by omission. It seems that the result was even though the lies she told were not "big" lies - just the fact that she lied resulting in there being a lack of trust between the husband and wife.
It's the little boy who cried wolf. You lose your credibility when you continually lie.
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no never.................i never hide anything from huby
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I am not open about every aspect of my life...its just hard. But I think I would have to change that about myself because it would lead to trust issues later on.
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As long as its not something that would affect their relationship...but then again no need for secrets
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once a drunk man said...
any thing which will hurt your relationship today, you have to tell right now !
^another drunk man also said as you drink more, three things happen.. the first is, your memory goes, and the other two.. i can’t remember… 
PS: Sheynie… raises hand .. can I post? 
I’m married… in my dreams.. So yeah.. I would never keep secrets … turns away and smiles
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As a side note . Women , men don't need to know everyyyyyyyy thing . Yes , get to the point .
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^ LOL how true 
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Yes there will be some secrets...for example if let's say my parents have a negative comment about my husband which I feel is just a misunderstanding or an incorrect perception, I dont feel it is necessary to share it with my husband and plant a seed of negative feelings in his heart. I'm sure he would do the same. If it is some mistake one of us made that can be corrected, then we would share with each other.
However, as far as I am concerned, I am an open book in front of my husband. He is fully aware of all my activities and has the right to know. We don't poke at each other though and try to give each other room.
Aaj nashta nahin kiya hai kya?
Very well said!
Yes there will be some secrets...for example if let's say my parents have a negative comment about my husband which I feel is just a misunderstanding or an incorrect perception, I dont feel it is necessary to share it with my husband and plant a seed of negative feelings in his heart. I'm sure he would do the same. If it is some mistake one of us made that can be corrected, then we would share with each other.
However, as far as I am concerned, I am an open book in front of my husband. He is fully aware of all my activities and has the right to know. We don't poke at each other though and try to give each other room.
abhi kiya ha 
You care . . . aww 
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I am totally ignoring this thread
As a side note . Women , men don't need to know everyyyyyyyy thing . Yes , get to the point .
I love telling elaborate stories, though. i love never getting to the point
for example: then I said this, and you should've seen her expression, and her body language was totally defensive and then I moved a little bit to the right and she moved to the left...
Yes there will be some secrets...for example if let's say my parents have a negative comment about my husband which I feel is just a misunderstanding or an incorrect perception, I dont feel it is necessary to share it with my husband and plant a seed of negative feelings in his heart. I'm sure he would do the same. If it is some mistake one of us made that can be corrected, then we would share with each other.
However, as far as I am concerned, I am an open book in front of my husband. He is fully aware of all my activities and has the right to know. We don't poke at each other though and try to give each other room.
I was thinking of writing something like that but I agree with you 100 %. And there is difference between secrets and lies.If we lie then definitely our trust will be gone.Usually I never hide anything from my husband but sometimes I know there are things that will only create negative then I hide them but if situation comes where I have to speak about them then I'll tell the truth.