secret second marriage

[Deeba1234]

Re: secret second marriage

@Mezhgan

The only case I’ve heard of in our community about someone entering a secret second marriage was a younger guy who’s only a couple of years old than me. Before beginning uni, he married a girl from back home at the behest of his parents (apparently, his parents are close friends with the girl’s parents and gave their word . However, he moved out and moved to Leeds where he was attending uni a couple of days after the wedding. He went about uni and his life as if nothing had happened and has not seen with the wife since (the poor girl lives with his parents). Apparently, he got “married” (though not in a civil marriage) a couple of years ago and is happily living with his wife as if the entire episode with his first marriage never happened.
To some extent, I could somewhat understand a younger guy doing something like that because of immaturity, inexperience, stupidity and the like but an older 60+ man?

My ex-sil’s uncle took a second wife for a similar reason to that you mentioned.. it wasn’t a secret though (the guy is very religious but the second wife was the one he wanted all along).. I think it usually is the younger guys doing it and often because their parents have pushed them to marry someone they wouldn’t have chosen.. Bizarre that taking a secret wife seems like a better option than saying ‘no’ and twisted that wife 1 from ‘back home’ is left at home looking after his parents whilst he’s sleeping with someone else..